Steelrain21 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I've been in NC for about 2 weeks now with my ex. We had an off and on relationship of a year and a half. I'm still in the transition of trying to not have hope for things working out and just moving on. She made things harder today by sending me a text saying that she's in the hospital and just had her appendix out and just thought that I'd like to know. I didn't answer it because I thought that she was probably just testing the waters a little to see if I'd still be there for her. I think if things were ever going to have a chance someday that she needs to have the realization that I'm not there for her anymore hit her really hard. Then she'd realize that if she wants that she's going to have to put forth the effort to make things work. That might not ever happen and I'm trying to not plan on it either to make this thing easier for me. The only way I'd ever break NC is if I started getting texts or voicemails telling me that she did have the realization and was ready to do what it takes to work. Any advice on this situation?
CaliGuy Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Well, in that case I might say "Hope you feel better and heal up soon." and that's it. I would say nothing else. If you are in full NC mode then don't answer her at all. The point of NC isn't to make her miss you, it's to make YOU move on.
Author Steelrain21 Posted October 7, 2008 Author Posted October 7, 2008 Well I got another text today from her: "My friends made me text you. I told them you were gonna delete it, not respond or care and get on with your life. I know I'm nothing to you. I was right" I didn't respond to this one either. I think she's just missing me and trying to make me feel guilty and talk to her. It's flattering, but I think it'd only end badly if I answered. If things are ever going to work I think she needs more time away from me to really see what she had.
survivingcollege Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Well I got another text today from her: "My friends made me text you. I told them you were gonna delete it, not respond or care and get on with your life. I know I'm nothing to you. I was right" I didn't respond to this one either. I think she's just missing me and trying to make me feel guilty and talk to her. It's flattering, but I think it'd only end badly if I answered. If things are ever going to work I think she needs more time away from me to really see what she had. Yikes, definitely DON'T respond to that.. that's hostile, anything you say will just add to the situation. Give her some time off, she'll realize what she's missing.
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