Star Gazer Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Hey guys, are any of you a "house husband"? If not, would you ever agree to being one? Perhaps working part-time, but predominantly being in charge of taking care of the homefront and the children while your wife works and brings home the bacon? What are your thoughts on this? As for the ladies, would you be open to this arrangement? Why, or why not?
jerbear Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I would consider being a "house husband" if the conditions are right. If the woman is making the bulk of the money and it makes sense financially and for the kids, plural, then maybe. The point of starting a family is once in awhile another has to step back while the other focuses on their career.
Sarita12385 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Call me old fashion but I would rather my husband be the bread winner and me get to stay home 'n take care of holdin' up the fort. Don't have kids yet, but if we DID, that's how I'd like it to be, if possible. Granted I went to school and wouldn't want that to go to waste either, I dunno...just my opinion
Lishy Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I could not respect a man who did not go to work - I dont know why, but I couldnt! My ex was a HH for a while when he went mental and I went out to work full time - He did nothing! I would come in after being at work all day and I would do the housework and cook dinner and sort out our son It was bloody awful!
fral945 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I would consider it in the right situation. If the woman has much more earning power than me, it makes sense logically. But if I could find a job making comparable money I'd rather be the one working. IMO, taking care of kids is more difficult work than a real job. It's a full time job and you don't get to leave at the end of the day.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I don't think I would like it. I was frustrated as a SAHM, I can only imagine the loss of identity my H would suffer if he were to quit working to stay home. I just don't think men are hard-wired to be dependent like that. I do know a few guys who stay home, but they're knuckling through like I did because it makes economic sense for their families. They'd rather be working, so many of them do something, like write for magazines or develop eBay businesses.
Trialbyfire Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 No, I wouldn't be open to the idea. There would be no reason for the husband to stay at home. For that matter, it's not like I have to stay at home either, although I probably will work from home. Good full time domestic help isn't that difficult to find, as long as they come with good recommendations from people you trust. You can also throw in security cams, so you can watch from work or any meetings you're going to, outside the home.
Lishy Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Imagine coming home from work to see your hubby in an apron, washing up and complaining about how he never gets a break and asking for his house keeping It wouldnt make me wanna drag him to bed!!
Jilly Bean Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Imagine coming home from work to see your hubby in an apron, washing up and complaining about how he never gets a break and asking for his house keeping It wouldnt make me wanna drag him to bed!! Noooo.... But it would make me want to put him in a cage at night.
Lishy Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 It would make me wanna wipe my feet on him on the way out the door!
jerbear Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 House Husband = Eunuch. Imagine coming home from work to see your hubby in an apron, washing up and complaining about how he never gets a break and asking for his house keeping It wouldnt make me wanna drag him to bed!! I ain't no eunuch! while whipping out the rolling pin! :lmao:
Jilly Bean Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 I ain't no eunuch! while whipping out the rolling pin! :lmao: There, there, my little man. Rotten day? Was Oprah pre-empted again? Where's my martini?
Author Star Gazer Posted October 7, 2008 Author Posted October 7, 2008 Why is a house husband a eunuch, when a house wife is...totally acceptable? Are you suggesting that a woman belongs in the home, whereas a man does not?
allina Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 I don't think I could be open to it. Silly as it may be it just would "feel" weird. Also, I think that men in this position end up feeling very resentful and emasculated after some time.
sb129 Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Most men would probably agree that its quite emasculating to be a house husband. At the moment, Wonderboy is doing odd jobs for my Dad while I am working full time, and he is struggling with it.
quankanne Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 great avvy, allina ouch, the rest of y'all ... DH has been a house mouse the past several years, and it's worked out okay. Six weeks ago, my father moved in and DH is his main caregiver, which is not an easy thing when you're in denial that the old man – really, the last living parent you have – is dying, and he's wanting to get the biggest bang out of life before he splits so you catering every whim and desire to keep him happy and to make the whole situation less stressful on your wife. so for the naysayers, my advice is to not knock it when you don't know what it's really about, when you only go by a misperception. It can be maddening at times, but you know what? H has gone above and beyond caring for my father when he could easily have said nothing, could never have offered to care for my dad just because he didn't want his lifestyle to change.
jerbear Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 There, there, my little man. Rotten day? Was Oprah pre-empted again? Where's my martini? You'll get your martini after I'm done my work, woman! I still would pursue a career outside the home. Oprah, Springer, soaps, are not my thing. I had some down time at home a few weeks earlier this year and it was really really boring to be at home.
quankanne Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Oprah, Springer, soaps, are not my thing. more like the idiots of talk radio around here :laugh:
sb129 Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Q- I think your H should be commended. I am just saying that in my own experience, I know that my WB would find it emasculating, and in fact is struggling with the fact that I am earning at present and he is not. He is dealing with it exceptionally well, but I know he is really looking forward to going back to work and feeling like he is making financial contributions again.
Trialbyfire Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 quankanne, your husband is a real trooper! No offense to anyone but trying to imagine any of the men I've been in relationships with, being the main caregiver, is beyond my imagination. None of them have been the nurturing type, although enough of them got along well enough and liked kids. Throwing a baseball around or teaching them how to fish/play hockey/ride a bike/things of that nature, most definitely. Changing nappies regularly and cleaning house as a primary occupation, ummm...nope.
johan Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 I've always wanted to be a house husband. I want to be taken care of.
quankanne Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 well, jo, hate to break the news, but mine is retired, so I'm not having to support him thanks to his government pension! as for him being a trooper, yeah, he is, but frankly, he's the last person I'd have expected to offer to do this for my dad because he's got a set lifestyle. So, don't knock what you haven't experienced for yourselves, you know? I think when it comes down to base, people step up in ways you can't imagine.
Green Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Wow a house husband that sounds great if the girl was making enough money for me to have fun all day... I wouldnt litteraly want to sit in a house all day... unless of course I got to watch tv and surf the net for porn... and a hot cleaning lady came twice a week to clean
Jilly Bean Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Why is a house husband a eunuch, when a house wife is...totally acceptable? Are you suggesting that a woman belongs in the home, whereas a man does not? Oh, Im not suggesting it, Im flat out saying it. In my ideal fantasy life, my hubby works, and I stay home. I manage the money, anything home related (contractors for repairs, maintenance, etc.), I manage the service people (the pool guy, landscapers...). Of course, I also have time to work out 3 hours a day, so I have a body tighter than a 17-year old gymnast, and time to shop in town for the freshest arugula as I busy myself crafting fabulous gourmet dinners for him and canning my own fresh preserves. But, I also stay current with global events, so I am still sharp and topical. Truly - I would LOVE to be a housewife, a la Donna Reed. This working for a living, being an independent chick, is starting to really blow. I'd like to be the porno version of Martha Stewart.
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