Virgo828 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Here's the rundown. Me and this guy I use to go to junior high school with found each other again after not talking for over 10 years. We basically agreed that it was hard to find people to chill with without them wanting something deeper. He told me he wasnt ready for a relationship then, mind you this was almost two yrs ago. So during this journey I'm driving up to see him on weekends and we're conversing every other day by text or phone. One day I told him that I was dating guys and he gets furious. So you know i'm thinking okay if he's mad we must be in some type of relationship. He then gets mad when he finds out im texting other guys too. One night I questioned him about somethings and he blows up. He tells me "I didnt like the fact that you were questioning me like we're a couple". So he can question me but i cant question him? And we're not a couple? I'm so confused. Now he has distanced himself and we only see each other at night when he calls me to come over or when I ask to come over. Before this we would chill during the day. What's the deal, we're both too old for these games.
Geishawhelk Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 So don't play games. Establish NC and wipe him out. Sounds as if he's developped into a Mr nice-and-controlling. Ask yourself if you can put up with more of the same. If the answer's 'no, not really!' (and I would guess it is, because otherwise, why are you posting?) then do the right thing for yourself and tell him that if he can give you the 3rd degree about texting other guys, you can do the same with him about other girls. After all, you're not a couple, right.....? If he doesn't like it, he can lump it. It's a no-go from here on.....
Author Virgo828 Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 I've done this many of times. I would go two weeks without communicating with him and he'd call and text like crazy. Once I answer him things would be good but he'd start pulling away again. So on one end it seems like he wants me but the other end he doesnt want me and he doesnt want anyone else to have me either.
Geishawhelk Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 establish NC, and maintain NC. If you give in every time, he'll go on doing it every time. You need to break the pattern. Hell, he isn't going to - you keep doing what he wants....!
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