SushiX Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Hello all. I was just in a 3 yr relationship. This is the longest relationship I ever had. We just broke up 2 weeks ago when I found out she was seeing another guy behind my back. I guess you can say she cheated on me. Our relationship wasn't too great the last several months, we'd argue and sometimes not even talk, and when we do talk, the conversations are usually dry. She says she likes this new guy and wants to get to know him more, but also says she misses me. In a way I'm glad she moved on because I know we'd never work out, since she lies about almost everything, selfish, and not appreciative of anything. But I don't know why in a way I still want it to work out, but another part of me says to stay away. She wants to be friends and still see me, but I don't think it's a good idea. She would always mention him when we talk and how great he is. Doesn't she realize that I'm hurting here?? So I don't know what to do. Should I be friends with her or just close the door and never look back? A part of me does want to be her friend, but another part of me hates her for what she did to me. Man, I feel so damm lonely...
randuff Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 From first hand personal experience DON'T try and be her friend right now. I did that and a year and a half later I am still stuck. Now I am definitely not saying that your situation is the same but I would wager that if you tried to be her friend you would never get over her. Don't waste a year and a half of your life man..... Just don't do it.
UnamedSeven Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Hello all. I was just in a 3 yr relationship. This is the longest relationship I ever had. We just broke up 2 weeks ago when I found out she was seeing another guy behind my back. I guess you can say she cheated on me. Our relationship wasn't too great the last several months, we'd argue and sometimes not even talk, and when we do talk, the conversations are usually dry. She says she likes this new guy and wants to get to know him more, but also says she misses me. In a way I'm glad she moved on because I know we'd never work out, since she lies about almost everything, selfish, and not appreciative of anything. But I don't know why in a way I still want it to work out, but another part of me says to stay away. She wants to be friends and still see me, but I don't think it's a good idea. She would always mention him when we talk and how great he is. Doesn't she realize that I'm hurting here?? So I don't know what to do. Should I be friends with her or just close the door and never look back? A part of me does want to be her friend, but another part of me hates her for what she did to me. Man, I feel so damm lonely... I know what it feels like. I had the insane thought that making the girl i liked, happy, would make me feel happy. So i got her together with the guy she really, really, liked, my best friend. They're still together, after 6 months, but not a day goes by where my heart is hurting from what i did so that she could be happy. I honestly think that you should just slam the damn door. I was hurt and still getting hurt from my stupidity. She deserves to feel how you did. I'm really sorry to hear about whats happened. You can never ever fix the damage that was done to your heart. I do know where you are coming from. In yet, i am still friends with the girl i used to like. But, she knows that i am hurt whenever she talks about the relationship she has with my best friend. As for my best friend, i couldn't let this stand in the way of our friendship. Although, we became on and off friends during the summer and are fine now. But, i won't be the same.
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