puller27 Posted August 23, 2003 Posted August 23, 2003 my gf dumped me about 8 weeks ago. we only met around the end of january but we really hit it off.shestayed with me just about every night that i was at home(i work out of town).for the first few months everything was great.about 4 1/2 months into the relationship she got her own apartment,she was staying with her dad.anyway thats when things started to change,even though i did't really notice at the time. she is 21 and i am 30.out of the blue she dumps me.she said that she didn't want a relationship right now,and told me i should find someone who could make me happy.i immediatly started to blame myself.i knew there were some things i did that did not make her very happy,and i thought that was why she did it. now after 2 months of trying to get her back with every tactic i could think of,i am now trying to accept that it is over.but there are quite a few things that still make me wonder if it was my actions or if she just needs to be alone.i have read some on commitment phobia,and i'm wondering if she is one. she does have some past issues with abusive boyfriends and a drug addiction.i know most of you will say i'm better off without her.i know i could be happier without her but i could be happy with her. the last time i saw her we were talking and she told me that she went through a mind altering change and she was a different person now.i do not know what she meant by this,or if it was while we were together.there are many things that i think this could have meant,it drives me crazy trying to figure it out. like i said i'm trying to move on and forget her,but the unanswered questions won't let me stop thinking about her.what to do,what to do?
Tony T Posted August 23, 2003 Posted August 23, 2003 Just accept that it's OK to have questions unanswered. Hell, I've been trying to figure out the meaning of life for many years...haven't found it yet...but not letting my life get screwed up because I haven't come up with an answer. I hope you have a life altering event soon yourself and find a chick who isn't so flakey.
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