OWoman Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Yesterday MM and I were out, when one of his kids phoned. They'd spent the night with friends, and BW was due to pick them up and spend the day with them before dropping them off later. The call was to say BW wanted them to spend a couple of days with her instead of just the one. MM told them that was OK, that we were out so they should just go past our house and collect their things and we'd see them later the week. When we arrived home, they'd been and gone. But I noticed some things weren't as I'd left them. Our bedroom door was ajar when I'd left it closed (the door is difficult to close from outside - there's a trick to it which is why I remembered so clearly shutting it when we left), and some things I'd left drying on the clothes horse had been moved (I have a very particular way of spreading things out so that they dry quickest) - MM's boxers, and my lacey underwear. I know it wasn't the kids. Nor was it MM. There's no one else it could have been. But what on earth would BW want in our house - in our bedroom, or with our underwear??? Have any BWs here been into their OW's (or s2bxH's) space before, and if so what were you looking at or for? Or any of the OWs here, have you found BWs having been in your space?
Owl Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Obviously not been in this situation, but it wouldn't be surprising if she had been in there. She's trying to "size up the situation". She's probably like most BS's and has a morbid fascination with what's going on on your side of the situation. I'd suggest that you and him sit down and come up with ways to avoid this kind of thing happening again. You might confront her, but she'd deny. Other than making it a legal matter...probably not much you can really do about it this time, but take steps to prevent it from happening again. Make sense?
Author OWoman Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 Obviously not been in this situation, but it wouldn't be surprising if she had been in there. She's trying to "size up the situation". She's probably like most BS's and has a morbid fascination with what's going on on your side of the situation. I'd suggest that you and him sit down and come up with ways to avoid this kind of thing happening again. You might confront her, but she'd deny. Other than making it a legal matter...probably not much you can really do about it this time, but take steps to prevent it from happening again. Make sense? Tx Owl. This is the first time she's been to the house - right up to it; she used to stop at the top of the street when fetching or dropping the kids, but since the rain incident and MM having words with her, she now stops outside a little way off. She likely overheard the conversation with MM saying we were out (some way off, and not likely to arrive back). It's not something likely to happen again, but easy enough to prevent explicitly. Your point about her wanting to "size up the situation" might be exactly it. She backed out of the agreed financial settlement just prior to signing, claiming that since we were "co-habiting" my finances should be factored in too. She since backed down from that on advice from her lawyer (since that would be to her disadvantage, financially) and has been trying other avenues to weasel massive amounts of money out of MM in the settlement (again, against the advicce of her lawyer - MM is being genereous way beyond the legal requirements, and she's risking pushing him into a position where it lands up in front of a judge - who will rule in terms of the law, which would be in MM's favour). I suspect she was looking for something - whatever - that might assist her campaign. But handling our (freshly laundered, but still) underwear? That creeped me out. It went straight back into the wash!
DealingWDrama Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Try to put yourself in her shoes - he husband, the father of her children has left her and is living with another woman yet they are not yet legally divorced. She was looking through your things, I have no doubt about that. I can't see myself doing that - I would handle things MUCH differently, but that's aside from your situation. She's hurt, broken, scared, and completely insecure. Maybe she put itching powder or something in your underwear, (I could see myself doing that just to be a B*) you were smart to rewash them. She probably went through pictures, documents, or anything else that was laying around...you never know.
Owl Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Yeah...I totally get how it would be creepy and kind of "violating" to have to deal with that, Owoman. Just take steps to prevent in the future...don't give her the opportunity to do it again.
Author OWoman Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 Maybe she put itching powder or something in your underwear, (I could see myself doing that just to be a B*) you were smart to rewash them. :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:
bentnotbroken Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Nope, that's just weird. I don't have a need to see how the ow lives. I pretty much know.
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