flc Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I guess I always worked the opposite direction. I would do my first pass based on physical looks and I would say that probably 25% of the pictures I find attractive. So in my area that is probably about 50 women. From there I read the profiles, now again in my area English is not the first language of the population so I don't get too worried about grammar and spelling I just look at content. Maybe from there I get to 10 women I think I want email. From 10 emails you may get 2-3 responses (attractive women get 100s of emails). After a few emails back and forth you get a date or two. So you continue to go through your list adding new people you find. So it takes time and you have to be patient. As I have said before my experience has been very positive. I have had a lot more good dates than bad ones and been in two relationships lasting longer than a couple of months including the current women I am with. Also I would give people a little benefit and don;t write them off immediately due to a bad profile. I have found some people look a lot better than their pictures represented and were much better in communication skills than their profiles would lead you to believe.
All Star Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Despite having gone through hundreds of profiles, I'm getting extremely frustrated. It seems like 50% of them don't know how to string together a simple sentence. Everything's crammed with run-ons, horrifying grammar, and piss-poor spelling. Within the other 50%, about 75% of those don't look physically attractive at all to me. Finally, within that small subset, even fewer seem like they'd be compatible. A fair number of the ads also have either double-postings with contradictory information, or misleading stats. Too many liars. Is it really asking too much to find a cute, intelligent woman who's honest, open, interesting, and thoughtful? Am I demanding the impossible? Am I just suffering the same fate as Sisyphus, here? With all these good women out here looking for men, I ask you - What's really going on? Why can't you get a date?
Author Vertex Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 I wish I knew. If I knew, I'd be trying to fix it.
All Star Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I wish I knew. If I knew, I'd be trying to fix it. I know if I were a man, I could go out and get 5 dates tonight. It's jsut too many single women out there.
Bells Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 I know if I were a man, I could go out and get 5 dates tonight. It's jsut too many single women out there. Too many single women with unrealistic expectations
D-Lish Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 I went on Lava 3 1/2 years ago and met a guy immediately....we dated for a year but just weren't compatible in the way we should have been to last. I signed back up a couple years ago on Lava and POF. I would say out of every hundred e-mails I get, maybe 5 will intrigue me. Of course physical attraction plays a great role in dating. But as I always point out- physical attraction is relative. There is just a certain something about some guys that make me want to read their profile. if a guy is posing with his shirt off or wrapping his arms around different girls in most of his pics... I delete the message- no matter how good looking he is. That either screams out 1) I am a player/wanna be player 2) I am insecure. Probably the same with girls that post numerous cleavage shots... I don't care about profession. A mechanic and a contruction worker have been my fondest dating experiences. A lawyer and a Doctor have been two of my most boring dates. yawn. I'd say 50% of my messages come from much younger guys...20-24. (I'm in my 30's). Okay- so admittedly, I have gone out with some of them for fun:eek:. But it's not realistic to have a long term relationship with anyone that much younger. I get a lot of creepy or suggestive messages (delete). Some guys send a bitter initial messages ie: I'm sure you're one of those girls that will just delete my message but I thought I'd see if you were different..." (okay- you have baggage). I do have certain expectations. Be smart, funny and assertive, yet kind. But that physical chemistry plays a big role. When I look at a picture, I'll see something or I won't. None of us can help that. I don't want to date the shirtless flexing sleazebags... I can also smell bitterness a mile away and I won't go there either. I've grown tired of it over the last year. But it is no different at the pub or the grocery store or anywhere else. It's dating in general I am tired of. I officially give up with you!
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