beautiful_stranger Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 So I have had this mad crush on this guy for a while now. He liked me before and now I like him (and developed to see him as being the most compatible guy i have ever met i.e. same education, family background, funnily enough). For a few months he's been wishy washy/leading me on without a real intent of actually asking me out properly. E.g. asking me to ask him out for a coffee, but he turns out to be busy (knowing him I believe he was actually really busy with work, but doesnt change anything), calling me to hang out with him and his mates etc and of course the occasional flirting whenever he felt like it. But nothing like a real date. Anyway, this really messes me around as he constantly gives me hope and then destroys it, it's like an emotional roller coaster (maybe he didnt intentionally do so, but it drains me out!). So I decided to put this to an end, by deleting him off my contact list on IM, by deciding to not initiate contact at all. I think the next drastic measure I am going to take is deleting him off my phone list!! I have read many Posts on NC. So my question is this, I am able to not initiate contact, as he's usually the one who initiates contact. What happens if he calls out of the blue again to join his friends for an outing? Do I answer? Should I go? On the one hand, ignoring him would mean completely ending this (even though I will miss him terribly!). On the other hand, since I have a soft spot for him, i'll probably reverting back to my old ways and seeing him whenever he does the invite. If NC really means absolutely no contact then what happens if the other party initiates it??
Lucky_One Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Why don't you just ask him out on a proper date? Get some tickets to an athletic event or a concert, and ask him if he'd like to go with you. Or to dinner and a movie. Why are you waiting on him to ask you out? Go for it, if you like him!
Author beautiful_stranger Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 I asked him out for a coffee, but he was busy with work. My friends have all impliedly told him that I am interested in him. So i feel that the situation right now is whether or not I ask him out will not change anything, as he quite clearly knows im interested. So my feeling is that the ball is in his court, if he is interested in me he would ask me out properly... which i have waited for months..
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