ShoeGirl Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I was with my ex for almost 2 years then one day he disappeared, never to be heard from again. That was in May. I saw him driving a few times after that and he was updating his facebook pretty frequently so I knew he was alive but he never returned my calls or answered my texts. The last time I saw him we were both going to go home to take showers and get ready then meet up in a few hours to go to a party, and he never showed up. I have since moved on, I have been dating a guy for the last month and everything was going just fine, we have been friends for a little over a year so he knows my ex and all of the crap that went on with him. We were hanging out at a bar that we usually hang out at a few nights ago, I left my phone on a corner table and we were all playing wii on the big screen in the middle of the room. After my turn the guy I was dating told me that my phone was ringing so I went and looked at it, I had a missed call from my ex... the first time he had tried to contact me in over 4 months. I just put my phone back down and went back to playing wii. When we went to leave the bar that night he told me that he didn't think that we should start a relationship right now, which just shocked me. When I tried to ask him why he said we should talk about when it's not 2am. I asked if it had anything to do with who called me earlier, he just asked if I was still seeing him. I tried to tell him that I haven't seen or talked to him since the day he disappeared and I had no clue why he called me that night but I don't think he believed me. I haven't had a chance to talk to the guy I was dating since then because our schedules were opposite this week, and I don't think I can fix much through text messages. I probably won't see him until Thursday unless I get off work early one day. My ex is still causing problems in my life and he probably doesn't even know it.
RecordProducer Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I don't think it's your ex who's causing the problem. He just called you. You told the guy everything about your ex and he doesn't trust you? I don't like his manipulative methods: to announce a breakup to shake you up and then say you'll talk about it another time. I am starting to notice a lot of this hostile, immature attitude in many people. He could've said "I am concerned that you might not be over your ex. Can we talk about what's going on and how you feel about him?" Instead, he wants to "disappear" on you, too.
pretty professional Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Maybe he didn't even know it was the ex who was calling and you told him that anyway. Honestly I do not think it was the ex calling that had anything to do with this new guy not wanting a relationship. It's that he's dated you a month and he isn't "feeling it." Sorry.
RecordProducer Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Maybe he didn't even know it was the ex who was calling and you told him that anyway. Hahah! Well, if she's mentioned his name and the caller ID contained his name, he knew who it was - IF he looked. Honestly I do not think it was the ex calling that had anything to do with this new guy not wanting a relationship. It's that he's dated you a month and he isn't "feeling it." Sorry.Could be, but you never know. There are men out there who think that their ladies should cut everyone off and obey them. And breakup is the most used tool by control freaks along with any form of creating a cold ambiance, in which the weaker party struggles to please the controling party in fear of abandonment.
Pyro Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Sounds more like this new guy you are dating is a tad insecure. I wouldn't blame it on your ex. The new guy should be able to talk to you about this issue instead of saying that he doesn't want a relationship right now and not give a reason. Good to see you back Doc.
torranceshipman Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Lol Pyro thats the funniest picture ever :D:D
Pyro Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 I know. Did you see that? McCains tie is crooked. What a boob.
Author ShoeGirl Posted October 10, 2008 Author Posted October 10, 2008 RP- It's my ex that disappeared not this new guy... he disappeared after we had been dating for almost 2 years last may. I know he saw who called because I asked him if it was my roommate calling because she is on the verge of having spine surgery and frequently needs help doing things, he told me it wasn't so I didn't bother going to see who it was. I haven't been going out much since she got really bad. She wanted me to be able to have fun so I told her to call and I would come home if she needed me to, I was only going to be a few blocks away, he has been really worried about her and really supportive of both of us so he knew this which is probably why he noticed my phone ringing in the first place. He asked me when we first got together what happened with my ex and I told him that he disappeared, he asked if I was really over him and I said I was but he didn't understand how I could be without knowing what happened to him. I had just assumed he found someone else and that was that. He has met my ex several times, I used to bring my ex into that bar with me and he was there, like I said I have been friends with this guy for over a year. I don't know if he thinks he has a lot to live up to of what. Now I have a sinus infection so I won't be going in there tonight which means I won't see him until this weekend... only if his football team is out of town otherwise he won't be there at all. I tried to call him earlier but he didn't answer and he hasn't called back yet. I don't know if there is much more I can do... Hi Pyro! It's good to be back
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