porter218 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 As a matter of fact, there is an IT guy here who is asian. He is drop dead beautiful and we all flirt with him all day long. He just laughs at us. He laughs at the white girls and the black ones. As a proud asian man, he's not going there. I've only ever seen him with asian women! I guess the reason that they are willing to venture out of the Asian culture around here is because most of them have come no less then halfway across the country and many from across the world to be here. Their families are all the way in Asia or on the other side of the country...so family pressures to marry within your race are easier to break free from. Plus it is a really liberal area so interracial couples in general are accepted.
All Star Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I guess the reason that they are willing to venture out of the Asian culture around here is because most of them have come no less then halfway across the country and many from across the world to be here. Their families are all the way in Asia or on the other side of the country...so family pressures to marry within your race are easier to break free from. Plus it is a really liberal area so interracial couples in general are accepted. I would argue that it is extremely rare to see an asian man with anyone other than an asian women. I would argue that it is extremely rare to see a black woman with anyone other than a black man. I would argue that it is extremely rare to see a latino man with anyone other than a latino women. I would argue that it is extremely rare to see a white man, but he's just really doing his own thing.
Shygirl15 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 As a matter of fact, there is an IT guy here who is asian. He is drop dead beautiful and we all flirt with him all day long. Really. I would love to see him. I think overall I just don't find asian males attractive. I have never come across anyone in RL or in movies that excited me the way other races do, unfortunately. We always end up being platonic, that's all.
Shygirl15 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I would argue that it is extremely rare to see an asian man with anyone other than an asian women. I agree, but this is mainly because no other race is willing to date them, to be honest.
All Star Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Really. I would love to see him. I think overall I just don't find asian males attractive. I have never come across anyone in RL or in movies that excited me the way other races do, unfortunately. We always end up being platonic, that's all. I know, right, but this guy is hot. And he's about 5'9, but he's so cute. I noticed that everytime someone is trying to describe him and can't recall his name they say, "You know, the really good looking asian guy?"
porter218 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 OK here is how it goes in my City I would argue that it is extremely rare to see an asian man with anyone other than an Asian women. They commonly date white women here but nothing else I would argue that it is extremely rare to see a black woman with anyone other than a black man. OK...That one still is true here I would argue that it is extremely rare to see a latino man with anyone other than a latino women. Latin men date any and every race here and same goes for Latino women. I would argue that it is extremely rare to see a white man, but he's just really doing his own thing. And they date all but black women here...sen a few couples but it is rare.
All Star Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I agree, but this is mainly because no other race is willing to date them, to be honest. See I always thought that it's because they like the mindset of a traditional asian woman and they don't want to deal with any big mouth white, black or (especially) latino women. In terms of the big mouth.
All Star Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 See I always thought that it's because they like the mindset of a traditional asian woman and they don't want to deal with any big mouth white, black or (especially) latino women. In terms of the big mouth. But he needs to give me a chance because I'd actually shut up for him.
porter218 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I agree, but this is mainly because no other race is willing to date them, to be honest. They are all wealthy doctors and pharmaceutical researchers here. I think the looks aren't the #1 hook that they have(just my opinion). Most of the ones I see around here have major $ and are dedicated family men...a rare and wonderful combination. But the Asian women are pretty attractive, or Asian/white mixed men.
All Star Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 OK here is how it goes in my City That last one is the other way around. My good friend is white and he likes black women, but none of them will date him. He had one, but she would not take him outside. All of the dates were inside. The black girls are embarrassed for black men to see them with white men. But why? Black men dont care if the black women see them with the white women. They hope they black women do see them, so they can try to look more like white women too.
porter218 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 That last one is the other way around. My good friend is white and he likes black women, but none of them will date him. He had one, but she would not take him outside. All of the dates were inside. The black girls are embarrassed for black men to see them with white men. But why? Black men dont care if the black women see them with the white women. They hope they black women do see them, so they can try to look more like white women too. I have always wondered about that. I do feel like the reluctance is more on the side of black women and not on white men. It seems like most black women can accept white women with black men but they will drag their friends through the mud if they date a white man. Why?? What is the difference?
All Star Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I have always wondered about that. I do feel like the reluctance is more on the side of black women and not on white men. It seems like most black women can accept white women with black men but they will drag their friends through the mud if they date a white man. Why?? What is the difference? They don't accept white women with black men. I saw that black women on the arm of this white guy and I shouted, "GO GIRL!!" Ha!
Stockalone Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Stock, 21st century racism is insiduously manipulative. Its had to go underground due to the climate of non-acceptance. I sincerely hope you haven't bought into the same load of crap that sks has done and is promoting. I want to believe you're smarter than that. Racism will most likely determine someone's dating preferences. However, I think it is wrong to conclude that the reverse is true. You cannot look at someone's dating preferences and tell whether or not he is a racist. Is someone with a different skin tone than mine a second class citizen or genetically inferior compared to me? Absolutely not. Am I worried about how the woman I am attracted to, will influence the gene pool if we had kids? I couldn't care less. However, when it comes to dating, I have preferences/must haves. Basically, I like what I am used to, what I grew up with. That includes skin tone as much as facial features. In general, skin tone and facial features of your average European(caucasian) will be significantly different than those of people from Africa or Asia. What I am attracted to, ranges from "light-skinned" to "average European" to the "Mediterranean type" with slightly olive/bronze skin.
Shygirl15 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 The black girls are embarrassed for black men to see them with white men. But why? They consider us sell outs. At my job, I will get filthy looks from black guys even when my interractions with white guys are just on professional level. I don't want to call it insecurity, but..
All Star Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 They consider us sell outs. At my job, I will get filthy looks from black guys even when my interractions with white guys are just on professional level. I don't want to call it insecurity, but.. Ignore them (black men) because they wouldn't even notice who you were talking to if they were with their white woman. They are dating white women because they feel inadequate and when you date white men, it makes them feel even more inadquate. See, how it's all about them?
Shygirl15 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 They are dating white women because they feel inadequate and when you date white men, it makes them feel even more inadquate. See, how it's all about them? That's it. I remember one black co-worker of mine said to me (after asking what the hell I was doing with this white guy), "you know, they think they deserve everything. They even think they deserve what belongs to us!". lol.. I was like hey! Calm down, brother. It's cool. But, really deep inside I was suprised by this kind of thinking.
All Star Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 That's it. I remember one black co-worker of mine said to me (after asking what the hell I was doing with this white guy), "you know, they think they deserve everything. They even think they deserve what belongs to us!". lol.. I was like hey! Calm down, brother. It's cool. But, really deep inside I was suprised by this kind of thinking. Yeah, everything belongs to the black man i.e. black women, white women and trouble. ha!.
All Star Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 That's it. I remember one black co-worker of mine said to me (after asking what the hell I was doing with this white guy), "you know, they think they deserve everything. They even think they deserve what belongs to us!". lol.. I was like hey! Calm down, brother. It's cool. But, really deep inside I was suprised by this kind of thinking. You don't have to comfort him. You should have told him to go straight to hell or back to his white woman (which ever is closer) and then ran back there and got the white guys number.
All Star Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I used to date this white guy here at work and during Hurricane Katrina, we were listening to the Mayor on the radio talking about the devastation there in New Orleans he said, "I bet gas prices are going to sky rocket now." WTF I had to dump him after that. He was out of touch with reality. I said, "This dude can't possibly belong to me!" Classic white boy nonsense.
porter218 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 You don't have to comfort him. You should have told him to go straight to hell or back to his white woman (which ever is closer) and then ran back there and got the white guys number. I agree. Really you should have told him you belong to nobody...only to yourself.
porter218 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 They don't accept white women with black men. I saw that black women on the arm of this white guy and I shouted, "GO GIRL!!" Ha! I don't know I really haven't had any problems with black women about my relationship....except when traveling in the 'deep south'. Family reunions and everything with my H have always gone smoothly..no issues with the women of his family.
Shygirl15 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I agree. Really you should have told him you belong to nobody...only to yourself. Did any of you watch Lakeview Terrace? There's this scene where Kerry Washington is asking her husband to confont their black neighbour but at the same time asking her husband to "be easy on him, because he's a Brother"? Lol. I guess I was doing the same.
All Star Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 1000BC, I believe that Shygirl and Porter are black females along with myself. Would you like to go out with any of us? And this will be the true test of how serious you are about finding love or are you just looking for snow white?
Shygirl15 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I don't know I really haven't had any problems with black women about my relationship....except when traveling in the 'deep south'. Family reunions and everything with my H have always gone smoothly..no issues with the women of his family. The other way around is more difficult, Porter. My friend has been married to a white guy for 8 years now (and 3 kids), but his family has not entirely accepted her to this day.
All Star Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I don't know I really haven't had any problems with black women about my relationship....except when traveling in the 'deep south'. Family reunions and everything with my H have always gone smoothly..no issues with the women of his family. Porter? Are you a sista or not? If not, you better not have one of MY black men. LOL I just offered US to 1000BC.
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