sweetnlow Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 I could really do with some advice. I've had a turbulent last few months. I broke up with my long term boyfriend (A) of 7 years in April, largely over his lack of commitment. It was a bit of a messy breakup. Shortly afterward I started dating a guy (B) from my workplace. I knew he was a bit of a player, and whilst I tried not to get too emotionally involved, I still managed to get hurt. He ran hot and cold on me for two months, until I finally had enough and called it a day. He didn't seem too upset at me calling things off, if anything I think it came as a relief to him. I was quite upset that he didn't put up any fight when I ended things, and felt as if I had been completely used. Since then I've managed to put a brave face on at work, however I know I've been a bit all over the place. Sometimes ignoring him (not to the point of rudeness, but just generally avoiding conversations unless they are work related), then, guilty at how childish I've been acting, making an extra effort to talk to him. He's been generally okay with me at work, which I put down to him not really giving a toss. During this time I got back with A and we're working through our issues. We recently went on holiday, using the time to wipe the slate clean and agree to start again. Since I've back though I've noticed things have changed with B. I tried to talk to him work the other day and he was very brisk with me. That evening I sent him a message through Facebook, which was friendly enough just saying words to the effect of: I hope I haven't upset him, noting that he seemed a bit off, acknowledging I've been a bit funny of late, apologising and saying I hoped we could let bygones be bygones and get back to being friends. Two days have past and he hasn't replied. I just went on Facebook and noticed he's deleted his account. I don't know if the two are connected, but they seem awfully coincidental. I will see him in work tomorrow and I really don't know how to act. I almost wish I never sent the message. What should I do? Should I speak to him face to face or just leave well alone? What would you take from him deleting his account? Comments appreciated.
periwink Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 He (B) sounds like a big stroppy baby to me! I would just forget about him completely and concentrate on A.
norajane Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 Leave well enough alone. You're back with your bf, so stop wasting time thinking about why this other guy is doing whatever with his facebook or anything. You said you felt used, so why does it matter that he be friendly with you? Just keep it professional and forget about it. It will blow over eventually.
0hpenelope Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 Let sleeping dogs lie with B, ok? I smell that he was a rebound and you know... it happens. Makes us feel crappy when we use someone as a rebound, but it happens. Focus on A. Let B be.
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