RecordProducer Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Perhaps it's because life has true clarity in these moments. Yes, when you're in this state of depression, you see life in its most elemental, uncluttered glory. As Lennon and McCartney best said it - all you need is love. And love is all you need. When we're depressed over the loss of love, two things are happening. One, in the words of Joni Mitchell, the realisation that "Don't it always seem to go That you don't know what you got 'til it's gone" Two, we understand that life is more-or-less meaningless in the so-called "transitional period" between loves. We are likely to find love again, but there are no guarantees. Maybe it will never again reach the depths of your heart like a previous love. You can lift yourself out of the depression, like almost all of us do. However, the clarity is lost - we may convince ourselves otherwise, but life without love is empty. We can bury ourselves in a cause, or in our careers - and have outrageous success - but all this "worthwhile and rewarding" activity is just fighting over the crumbs of life. You just answered a question for me: why I feel so unmotivated. I do want the divorce (it seems I more than he), but his rejections are killing my ego. Well, thanks for explaining your opinion. I must correct you though: love is not all we need, but it's one of the most important things. When you're sick, you don't feel like doing anything, but good health is not all you need for happiness. Also, when we are rejected (dumped, forgotten, betrayed), we seem to take breakups much more painfully. But I'll go along the notion that our feelings are more important to us than making money, seeing a concert or a game or playing golf. Even making money is about the feeling it gives you (above the certain line where it's not a matter of safety, comfort, and freedom anymore). But why are we so stupid to suffer for people who are not right for us? Nemo, are you really gay or was that a joke?
Trialbyfire Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I smell a juicy fight coming along! Nemo loves to dish it out but has problems taking it. As for love being all, that's complete and utter b/s. Life is way, way more than just romantic love. Romantic love is one aspect that helps to enhance life but then, so does broccoli.
Nemo Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 As for love being all, that's complete and utter b/s. Life is way, way more than just romantic love. Romantic love is one aspect that helps to enhance life but then, so does broccoli. Thank you, Mr Spock.
Trialbyfire Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Thank you, Mr Spock. Glad to have helped, Ms. Bombeck!
CandyGirlXO Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 I have had 3. All have hurt in there own way. But heartbreak to me has been the hardest thing to have to experience. That's why I love this site. 1st breakup. I was young and didn't plan on marrying him but he cheated on me when I thought he could be trusted. 2nd hurt the worst. I thought we were "soulmates" yes I was once naive and thought there was such a thing. I couldn't breathe. It came as a complete shock no signs of it ending. I couldn't eat for months. I became sick. I still wonder what happened. 3rd and recent. It was me who ended it but the verbal abuse for years makes me feel like I am unlovable and the EX won't leave me alone. I rather be single than be with him but I still get lonely and miss the companionship and the good times we had on occasion. I feel like love doesn't exist unless between parent and child. I feel like what's the point this isn't what I thought my life would be. But deep down I have hope but I know there are no guarantees. I am too young to be this bitter.
trueblue72ny Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 they all hurt with equal intensity. im exhausted from bad relationships. when is it going to end????!!!!!!
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