olganom Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 Just here to ask for advice if there is any hope at all? I have/had a LDR with this girl we known for over 6 months. we meet on internet, not met in real life.. was suppose too. We had days it was real bad, was my fault yes but sorted out and i learned my mistakes and we always been so lovely to be with. Untill today, we meet on msn this morning was on for couple of hours. Till i mentioned I might do this new job will take 2 years to complete so i get an education, but i talked to her becuase i was unsure to do it or not. And well she said i should she wouldt be the reason why i didnt take it. She had to go for lil bit 30min, then i get a txt if this was the end? Came on msn talked she just dont see any point for us, would be better to stop it now or it would just hurt more later. I told i would be able to meet her, like in weekends vecations what so ever. Is she right is this the best for me? She said she did it for me. Was i just that meaningless to her? It just hurts to damn much, dont know what to think or do anymore. Is there anyhope she will change her mind? How can someone spend so much time with you everday and even so much crap in the past still stay with me, then 1 mention 1 thing that takes her 30 min to breakup?
Meaplus3 Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 Just here to ask for advice if there is any hope at all? I have/had a LDR with this girl we known for over 6 months. we meet on internet, not met in real life.. was suppose too. We had days it was real bad, was my fault yes but sorted out and i learned my mistakes and we always been so lovely to be with. Untill today, we meet on msn this morning was on for couple of hours. Till i mentioned I might do this new job will take 2 years to complete so i get an education, but i talked to her becuase i was unsure to do it or not. And well she said i should she wouldt be the reason why i didnt take it. She had to go for lil bit 30min, then i get a txt if this was the end? Came on msn talked she just dont see any point for us, would be better to stop it now or it would just hurt more later. I told i would be able to meet her, like in weekends vecations what so ever. Is she right is this the best for me? She said she did it for me. Was i just that meaningless to her? It just hurts to damn much, dont know what to think or do anymore. Is there anyhope she will change her mind? How can someone spend so much time with you everday and even so much crap in the past still stay with me, then 1 mention 1 thing that takes her 30 min to breakup? First of all it's up to you to conclude if taking this new postion is the best thing for you. YOU need figure that out. Now, you mention that you have never meet in person so, I assume this has strictly been an online LDR? AP:)
Geishawhelk Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 Olganom, how old are you? because if you're under 18 then, trust me, it may feel this way, but this is definitely not the worst day of your life - !! You haven't even met the person, you haven't hooked up, you haven't held hands, you haven't been on a date, kissed, cuddled, got fresh.... geesh! Chill! Live your life in the most productive way to you, get this career sorted out and move on up!
Lucky_One Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Why would getting a new job or educational opportunity change your LDR anyway?
crimsonrose Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Olganom, how old are you? because if you're under 18 then, trust me, it may feel this way, but this is definitely not the worst day of your life - !! You haven't even met the person, you haven't hooked up, you haven't held hands, you haven't been on a date, kissed, cuddled, got fresh.... geesh! Chill! Live your life in the most productive way to you, get this career sorted out and move on up! Actually I remember when my fiance and I first started our relationship online, within the first month we were inseparable. LDR's grow close and strong much quicker than IRL relationships because you spend all of the time talking and getting to know each other, where as IRL relationships consist of dates once a week for the first 6 months and not as much getting to know each other. Doesn't matter the age, as long as you're mature for your age if you're under 18. My advice is to not take the job and find one closer to her if that's possible. Give us a bit more detail
BettyBoop Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 My advice is to not take the job and find one closer to her if that's possible. Give us a bit more detail I don't agree with this. If she was really 100% committed thinking it had to work between the two of you - she would encourage you to take the job and see her on weekends. As it is now, she didn't even seem to want to give it a second thought. If she really wanted it to work between you, don't you think she should have been the one suggesting to talk/meet weekends in the first place? You have done nothing wrong telling her about your thoughts of the future, and who knows she might have reacted harshly and will regret her decision within a day or two - but until then: DO NOT RISK YOUR FUTURE ON SOMEONE WHO ISN'T AFRAID TO THROW YOU AWAY AT THE VERY THOUGHT OF A SMALL CHANGE. If this job means you will have a better future, she should be understanding and supportive. If she can't be - then I doubt she is the girl for you.
crimsonrose Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 I don't agree with this. If she was really 100% committed thinking it had to work between the two of you - she would encourage you to take the job and see her on weekends. As it is now, she didn't even seem to want to give it a second thought. If she really wanted it to work between you, don't you think she should have been the one suggesting to talk/meet weekends in the first place? You have done nothing wrong telling her about your thoughts of the future, and who knows she might have reacted harshly and will regret her decision within a day or two - but until then: DO NOT RISK YOUR FUTURE ON SOMEONE WHO ISN'T AFRAID TO THROW YOU AWAY AT THE VERY THOUGHT OF A SMALL CHANGE. If this job means you will have a better future, she should be understanding and supportive. If she can't be - then I doubt she is the girl for you. this is also true. there could jsut be deep details that we're missing its hard to advise this thread cuz we know so little. but yes, if shes willing to throw it away so soon, perhaps that isnt the best idea..
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