Simplycaroline Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 unless both parties are willing to work to make it happen. They are not possible through manipulation, cohersion, emotional blackmail or any other nonsensical plight of desperation. My mate and I are sleeping single in a double bed and have been for some time and sometimes it is difficult but the long and the short of it is since he does not want to be with me anymore we will not be together. curtesy then why should I beg, grovel and plead. Oddly enough now that I will not play this game with him we get along better then when I was giving in to everything and internalising everything. He is a good man. One of the very best that I have known. I haven't got a bad word to say against him and my love him is absolute but I will only be responsible for my own happiness and actions. That is all that I have the strength for. This comes after reading so many threads and post from people that seem so trapped. I am free because I decided to be. I wish that many would stop finding so much pleasure in their misery and start enjoying at least the possibility of happiness. I believe that having this attitude will help rather my hubby and I make it together or if we part.
Deegee Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 I agree with you 100% Simply Caroline!!!!!! I applaud you for seeing that you, and only you alone can make you happy. I think that we get to a point where you decide if you want to wallow in this black hole of agony, or if you seriously want to move on, then you do. Plain and simple. For myself, I am just too plain tired (just like you...) and only have the energy to place me first, for once and for all. I'm just ready to start healing. Don't get me wrong, I definitely have my crying days, and days when I feel totally sad, but I am seeing better days, and the crying seems to be tapering out, so yay! Only good can come from all of this drama. Good Luck to you!
Author Simplycaroline Posted October 5, 2008 Author Posted October 5, 2008 Thank you Dee and the best to you as well.
ahhhchooo Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 When my future relationships end I will not cling for a second chance. I will not jump on small bits of hope - it only holds one back longer. I see now the pit of misery I've thrown myself into, and I'm climbing out by focussing on myself and trying my best to divert thoughts of her. I still think about her a lot, but I won't let myself dwell on her for long periods of time like I was in the past few months. Meanwhile, life is waiting
Author Simplycaroline Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 When my future relationships end I will not cling for a second chance. I will not jump on small bits of hope - it only holds one back longer. I see now the pit of misery I've thrown myself into, and I'm climbing out by focussing on myself and trying my best to divert thoughts of her. I still think about her a lot, but I won't let myself dwell on her for long periods of time like I was in the past few months. Meanwhile, life is waiting Good for you. I know that there are some very difficult days in the life of difficult relationships but i am with you. I want to be happy. I am smiling more today than I did yesterday and it will continue to. The future looks bright.
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