Toasted Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 So I have been seeing this guy for a couple months. The past few weeks i've only seen him twice because Im working alot and my days off i spend with my daughter, whom he has not met. He is recently divorced and im in the process, and we've both said neither of us wants a commitment/relationship right now. My friend is worried that our little fwb/whatever you want to call it thing we have going is going to end up with me hurt. i understand and i love her for caring, but id like a second opinion (or 3 or 4, lol). We have been intimate and its been great! I guess the best example i have is that the last time i saw him i had to work the next day (midnights). My daughter was on a weekend trip with her dad so on my day off so i went out with some friends and met up with him later with some of his friends. He came over and stayed the night and the next day we slept in and he hung out at my place. We just watched a movie/football and he left a little bit before i had to leave for work. So what im asking is - am i correct in thinking Im not just being used for some action? Does a guy hang out with you all day watching movies and football after staying the night with you if hes just using you? I did make him lunch - but im not that great of a cook! I think we are ok - but i am a little biased -
MrEELB Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 Not sure if I have the right to reply to this, I was not married nor have a child with my ex. I have my own story on here, I loved my ex dearly. However I can say that I have started to see some one new, She has been great, she makes me laugh I make her laugh, we enjoy each others company alot. Now its very early doors, she is not a replacement for the ex, she is some one new. I dont know whats going to happen and neither does she. So I pass this thought onto you, nether of you know whats going to happen, you cant throw in the towel because you dont know, so you try and see what happens if you move on as a couple then great, surely thats whats its all about isnt it?
Author Toasted Posted October 5, 2008 Author Posted October 5, 2008 Yup - I agree. I would like to relax and see where it goes. Just looking for a second opinion....
Lucky_One Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 I don't think a guy would hang out with you all day if he was just using you for the sex. But he could just be "using you" for comfort, friendship and companionship (just like you are "using him" for the same thing right now). Once you are by yourself after sleeping with someone else every night for years, it can be a lonely transition, and you miss the comfort of having a warm body and some noise on quiet days off. You both say you don't want a relationship right now, so I can't see where either of you are going to get hurt, unless one of you is getting into the other one emotionally. Until then, it seems like a healthy and happy friendship with a lot of nice bennies in it, so I wouldn't go looking for trouble!
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