he said he might ask me out again

[darliee]

This guy named Matt has been my boyfriend for nearly 6 months(since april 7th). I always ask him if he loves me or likes other girls. I always heard about him flirting with other girls. We always do stuff, except for sex. But then last day he dumped me(on the phone) for keep asking stuffs like that. He said he had enough of it. I asked if he still have feelings for me, he said no. I slit my wrist and showed it to him. He begged not to kill myself cos he cares about me heaps and heaps. He said if I did another one again he would never go out with me cos its "s i c k". I asked him to give me a second chance and is it alright to go out with him again. He said yes and will think about it and give him a time to think about it. I told him not to tell anyone about it, cos it'll hurt. I heard that he was crying too and couldn't call me cos he's too nervous.

 

The next day we've been texting and I asked him if he likes me still. He said "a bit". He puts "i love you xoxo" at the end of his messages. Obviously, i sent it back to him cos i really do love him. I asked him how much he loves me by percent, he said 65% or 75%. I tried to tell him all the stuff I sacrificed for him and our memories together. He said it hurts him and feel like "s h i t" when i told him those stuff i sacrificed for him. I dunno if he loves me still. I want him to come back to me. then he said if "I make him like me more" than he does now, he'll ask me out. I tried all my best. We decided that i should come to his house and make out etc. Then he said he might ask me out. But like when i ask if he loves me still, he said "a bit, cant tell yet and dunno". I promised him not to tell or ask stuffs if he likes me still etc.

 

This is my questions:

1) who would you make a guy like you more than he does now? or make him come back to you?

 

2) Should i give up and move on or just wait for him?

 

3) How'd you know if he loves me still? like 100%?

 

4) I dunno what to do?

 

And i asked a guy friend about this he said just leave him alone for a while until he changes his mind. I wouldnt want to bring up all those bad stuffs cos i know it would make him less like me. So i just stick up with good stuffs to talk with him.

 

I cried everytime i think about him and stuffs we always do. We're really good best friends and get on heaps good. The one problem is I cant stop my jealousy and it hurts him.

[Geishawhelk]

OK, I'm going to give you an answer, but I'm not sure you'll like it.

He doesn't want to go out with you.

Nothing you do will, or can, make him 'like you more'.

You really really scared him when you slit your wrist, and that is a terrible thing to do yourself for a start, but it's also a really nasty thing to do to make somebody go out with you.

It's whacky, manipulative, dangerous and completely unreasonable.

 

I think you have a dependency problem, and I also think you have very low self-esteem.

Anyone who deliberately hurts themselves to get the attention of others is in need of professional support, counselling or medical help.

He's probably terrified of not giving you a straight reply, simply because he's scared of what you will do to yourself.

but I don't think he loves you, and I don't think he ever will.

And what you did really didn't help.

 

Forget it, move on, and really - do some work on yourself.

Unless you do, nothing will ever go right on the outside, if it's all still going wrong on the inside.

[Lishy]

I think you really need to get some therapy. I am not going to give you any firther advice as I think you would not handle it very well

 

Please go and get some help as a matter of urgency

[darliee]

thanks for the advice. yeah i might do that.

[matt367]

Yeah i second the therapy thing. Your cutting your wrist over someone else?? that isnt cool at all. be safe and get therapy please, focus on you also.