lambda Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 I had a flirt going on with a girl at work for a couple of months. At one point it was really intense, we had a lot of physical contact. For some reason the flirting eventually stopped. Now I miss the good feeling of knowing that I'm going to have lot of physical contact with this girl at work. I want to know why she doesn't want to flirt anymore. Is it possible to bring a flirt alive again? Would it be a good idea to ask her why we don't flirt anymore, or would this do more harm than good?
Green Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 you have to keep bringing it to the limit... once its time to bring things to the next level like say kissing or sex and you don't jump to that next level then things can end. Girls are like gates in the way they like you... the gate only stays open for so long and if you didn't get in the gate may not open again
Author lambda Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 She is not married, but she has a boyfriend. Don't tell me I should have taken things to the next level even though she has a boyfriend? I haven't heard much positive things about him, but she has said things like "I have a future together with my bf", and I've taken that as a sign that she's not planning to dump him. She likes to have some fun at work, and having a flirt at work always makes it more exciting. But if I ask her why we don't flirt anymore, would this just ruin my chances of bringing the flirt back to life?
4dviceJunki3 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Let me get this straight here..you're complaining that this girl who is MARRIED stopped flirting with you? Ummm..maybe that's because she has come to her senses and realized what she was doing was wrong. It's one thing if she's unhappy about her boyfriend and she comes to you to complain about him but if she actually likes this person and truly believes that there may be a future with him, then you shouldn't be one to complain about the fact that she doesn't flirt with you. Let me ask you this..would you want your GF flirting the same way she did before with you but with some other guy at work? Put yourself in the guys shoes with that in mind, and then reconsider your actions. I'm not saying that flirting is very bad but you're saying that at one point you guys really had some good physical contact with one another. Well, it seems to me that you're intentions behind this flirting is a bit more than just to flirt. I mean you're a guy, you'll most probably always be willing to sleep with an attractive women at work who you flirt with all the time. You just need to watch what grounds you're stomping on.
carhill Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 She is not married, but she has a boyfriend. Ah, no worries. Situational ego feed. Enjoy! .....and don't expect it to go anywhere...
Trimmer Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Let me get this straight here..you're complaining that this girl who is MARRIED stopped flirting with you? He stated very clearly: She is not married, but she has a boyfriend. Now, given that she is in an apparently committed relationship with a future, I think there's not a whole lot of difference. Indeed, maybe she came to her senses (especially, maybe she realized that she had "gone too far" and backed off) and recommitted to her relationship. I can totally understand that. I get the fun of flirting and getting a little physical - if considered in isolation - but if you were able to find some respect for her existing relationship, and put her actions in that context, that might help you to understand her behavior.
4dviceJunki3 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 He stated very clearly: Now, given that she is in an apparently committed relationship with a future, I think there's not a whole lot of difference. Indeed, maybe she came to her senses (especially, maybe she realized that she had "gone too far" and backed off) and recommitted to her relationship. I can totally understand that. I get the fun of flirting and getting a little physical - if considered in isolation - but if you were able to find some respect for her existing relationship, and put her actions in that context, that might help you to understand her behavior. Well said.
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