jerbear Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 I think you should go ape shot on your ex. You can't "change" numbers or block numbers because he still needs to contact you to get to his and your son. I do have to side with other posters in that you have to talk to him in a civil manner but I still lean toward ape shot! I know you are a civilized nice lady and quite frankly, it is time to lay down the law with your ex. No joke texts, keep it professional and only when it relates to your son. If he doesn't get it, then ignore texts that have nothing to do with legal or domestic issues. Better yet, how about giving your son the phone so he gets those messages? You get a newer number?
Author Lishy Posted October 5, 2008 Author Posted October 5, 2008 Jerby, this is not my sons dad I am talking about, it is my recent ex, no kids involved! He text me tonight saying "I guess you dont want to talk to me" and I replied "no I dobt and I would like you to delete my number" He sent back "It is me who is no good" I could not deny it so I didnt reply and have no intention of it!!
muse08 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Reply to one of them with your own punchline that has some meaning to it telling him to get lost... or make up your own joke back to him Did you hear the one about the guy who couldn't take a hint and get lost ? Why did the dickhead cross the road ?.. art critic u r definitely funny...however, LISHY, if you honestly DO NOT want him and don't like him anymore, then you shouldn't get into a text-match with him. that may only give him satisfaction and hope that you may start communicating with him more. he definitely wants to be in your thoughts, is what i think. so i would either continue to ignore him, block him if ignoring doesn't work, then if he shows up at your door you may need to warn him that you will take further measures if he does not stay away from you. AGAIN...this advice is only if you REALLY don't want anything to do with him,don't even like the thought of him and/or feel threatened by him. although, to me it sounds like you're still feeling this guy...? p.s. true, i forgot you can't block people on your cell phone...at least not on the cell phones i've had. i had to change my number due to an ex constantly calling me. i never turn my cell off, so i had difficulty sleeping... this guy got CRAZY! showing up at my house too...i warned him that i would get a protective order if he didn't stop. he finally stopped!
Author Lishy Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 I do still love him and I do miss him and the feeling is getting worse - I just know we are done because I will not put up with a guy who is so unreliable!
marlena Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 I do still love him and I do miss him and the feeling is getting worse Lishy, you need to look at this realistically and try to squelch any feelings you have for him. Being unreliable is the least of his problems. He's on drugs. This should be enough to want to keep him out of your life and your son's life. It's bad enough that the both of you have to deal with a mentally unstable father, the last thing you need right now is a drug addict. Just remember that it is not your ex that you really miss but rather how he made you feel. That's just a fix, Lishy. I am sure that a woman with your brains and experience can not love and admire a man like this. He is toxic and IMO he will only bring you a lot of heartache if you should choose to let him into your life again. I can understand how his texting may upset you and bring back memories and a feeling of longing to see him again. I am sure that he knows this and is just waiting for you to break. If I were you, I would change numbers and muster up all my strength to extricate myself from the situation.
Author Lishy Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 I totally agree with you Marlena I am so shocked that he is doing coke! I will not get back with him and I am just being honest when I say I still love him, as I do! He has so many good points and is a lovely guy - A lovely guy who obviously has huge issues!! I am not saying any of this because I will get back with him, I wont. It is just nice to let my feelings out to be honest as I am a person who just gets on with it
marlena Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 It is just nice to let my feelings out to be honest as I am a person who just gets on with it I know how important it is to let feelings out. I am just like that, too. You know we are all here for you.
Author Lishy Posted October 21, 2008 Author Posted October 21, 2008 He has just called me again!! He left a message this time saying "come on Lish, it is normally me who is childish, please answer the phone or call me back, PLEASE" I wish he would just stop, I know I shouldnt let it get to me but it DOES and I cant stop it affecting me!!!! ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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