Lishy Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Why does he do this? It is so annoying and sort of ruins my night as it makes me think of him, I guess that is why he is doing it:rolleyes: I broke up with him a few months ago and I do not want contact with him as it makes it harder for me I hate men! I dont wanna be mean to him but I know it is a matter of time before he starts calling and then I will have to break up with him all over again Grrrrrrr what is the best thing to do?
foxh1234 Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Email him or call him once and say please stop. If it continues, you may have to block him. My ex did the same with me until I blocked her.
Author Lishy Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 Are they funny ? Yes they are but I dont want em! I find it hard to be mean to him as he is a nice guy - What is a good way to tell him to stop that is not nasty but make it very clear to stop?
Author Lishy Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 Boys must play, Lishy. I'd ignore them. I am worried he will turn up at my door, I dont want to see him!
Art_Critic Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Yes they are but I dont want em! I find it hard to be mean to him as he is a nice guy - What is a good way to tell him to stop that is not nasty but make it very clear to stop? Reply to one of them with your own punchline that has some meaning to it telling him to get lost... or make up your own joke back to him Did you hear the one about the guy who couldn't take a hint and get lost ? Why did the dickhead cross the road ?..
CaliGuy Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 It's his way of saying "Hey I am still around if you want me..." Pathetic! Text him back and tell him to leave you alone. If he doesn't, have his number blocked.
Author Lishy Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 Next time he texts I will reply I dont know how I will word it
marlena Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Text him and tell him to stop sending you these annoying joke messages that you do not find funny at all. If he shows up at your doorstep, tell him that he should know better than to show up on people's doorstep without calling first. Then, kindly ask him to leave as you have a date.
Trialbyfire Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Set up a filter to automatically reroute his emails to the trash bin. He's looking for a reaction. Don't give him one.
marlena Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 He's looking for a reaction. Don't give him one. Yes, now that I think of it, TBF is right. Why give him the satisfaction?
Trialbyfire Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Yes, now that I think of it, TBF is right. Why give him the satisfaction? I had to put up with this from my ex-H for a long time. My mistake was to respond originally because I wanted to keep it civilized. He finally went away after I ignored him for months.
Author Lishy Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 Ok so I just carry on ignoring? I am expecting him to call soon, this is what he does! I just ignore that too?
Author Lishy Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 If I didnt miss him so much this would be a non issue! I was doing good and then he has to remind me Mfer!!
marlena Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 I had to put up with this from my ex-H for a long time. My mistake was to respond originally because I wanted to keep it civilized. He finally went away after I ignored him for months. You're absolutely right TBF. As long as they keep getting a response, any response, they will continue to do it. ..and feel good about it. So, Lishy, unless you want to maintain some form of contact with your ex, silence is probably your best answer.
Lizzie60 Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Why does he do this? It is so annoying and sort of ruins my night as it makes me think of him, I guess that is why he is doing it:rolleyes: I broke up with him a few months ago and I do not want contact with him as it makes it harder for me I hate men! I dont wanna be mean to him but I know it is a matter of time before he starts calling and then I will have to break up with him all over again Grrrrrrr what is the best thing to do? Can't you block him?
Trialbyfire Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Yes Lishy, you should keep ignoring him until he gets the message loud and clear. This is only if you don't want contact with him at all, until you've managed to become indifferent. When that happens, you can decide, if he'll make a good friend. As it stands, my ex-H still turns up at the odd social event and causes me grief. I sincerely wish him future happiness, one that doesn't include me.
Art_Critic Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Unless she has at one time gone ape shiot on him over contact then most likely he will think he will wear her down and finally get her to breakdown and speak with him. If she draws a line and tells him to get eff'd and never contact her again then he won't think there is some chance that his joke texts will wear her down.. Just a thought... I guess it depends if you want to nip it in the bud or put up with the constant peppering of contact till he goes away.
You'reasian Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Flat out ask him why he's sending you joke texts? Dig for the answer and then decide how you will respond.
Author Lishy Posted October 5, 2008 Author Posted October 5, 2008 Ok I have had a really bad night of dreams about my ex ex (sons dad) and my recent ex and I think I have come to a conclusion of how to deal with it I have some more info and it explains why he was so unreliable of late - My brother in law was best friends with my ex's brother from when they were kids. My ex's brother lives in America with his wife and kids and only comes over once a year so my BIL went out with my ex and his brothers on Friday night - My BIL told my sister that my ex was off his face and doing loads of coke to the point of it being all around his nose and my BIL having to tell him to wipe it off That explains alot to me and I know I will never be with a coke head! Next time he texts any crap I am gonna be horrible to him (which I have never been) and let him know to lose my number as I do not want anything to do with him! Fk him, let him go kill himself with coke, he is not bringing me down with him Wow I am here in shock to be honest! Thank you everyone for all of your advice, I really appreciate it x
Author Lishy Posted October 5, 2008 Author Posted October 5, 2008 Yes Lishy, you should keep ignoring him until he gets the message loud and clear. This is only if you don't want contact with him at all, until you've managed to become indifferent. When that happens, you can decide, if he'll make a good friend. As it stands, my ex-H still turns up at the odd social event and causes me grief. I sincerely wish him future happiness, one that doesn't include me. The thing is that the texts sort of ruin my day as it makes me think of him! Dumb but true. Unless she has at one time gone ape shiot on him over contact then most likely he will think he will wear her down and finally get her to breakdown and speak with him. If she draws a line and tells him to get eff'd and never contact her again then he won't think there is some chance that his joke texts will wear her down.. Just a thought... I guess it depends if you want to nip it in the bud or put up with the constant peppering of contact till he goes away. I have never gone ape at him for anything, we have never raised our voice to each other - I do have to tell him next time he texts to just stop it, and say it in a way that he knows I am serious I have to stop him as I am fine when I do not hear from him
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