SoundTribe Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 I can't stop thinking about her...? I experienced a rather bad break up with my first love approximately 1 month ago. Myself and this girl had been best-friends since 10th grade, and late in my junior year high school we began to date. We entered a beautiful relationship that lasted until our first week in college. It came as a shock that we broke up so easily in college, when we had assured each other that we wanted nobody else, and that we loved each other and would get married. The college I went to had a dominant Greek life, and we had come from a small private school. She began getting significant male attention from the day she walked on the campus and a week later, she told me she wanted to break up. I was crushed, and our college was so small that I didn't want to have to deal with the humiliation of losing my girlfriend to the frat houses. So I withdrew. Right now I am awaiting January, so I can begin my first semester elsewhere. The problem is difficult now, because I can't get over her. I've done everything I can, I've cut off communication, I've gotten rid of everything that reminds me of her, I've even disbanded my facebook account and blocked her screen name on aim, not to mention deleted her phone number. I haven't heard from her in weeks and I've been extremely disciplined, telling my friends at the college from the day we broke up, not to talk to me about her. But then a week ago I received a text message from somebody that said "you should have heard all the dirty things your ex was screaming in my ear last night." And here I am now. Back to day one because of this. Its ten times worse because I'm not in school and I want to start school so badly. I try and do things with my time. I play soccer and I work a full time job, but nothing seems to work. What are good techniques to forget about her?
Crazy.S Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Sorry to tell you this but there is no quick method. If you give it time and continue what you are doing, it will fade. Might take months or years depending on the relationship. There are "techniques", but they are only temporary fixes. I know it's hard but you must maintain NC until you are ready.
WiseOne1 Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 No there is no quick fix method, but your already doing much better than people here at LS do at first, you went NC asap. Bassically shes never had as much attention as she does from guys know, she loving the attention and doesnt seem like shes ready for anything serious. If you want her back, shes gonna come back, but you might not want her when she does. I've been thru this before with a girl, she wanted to date other guys, or just didnt know what to do when all the other guys showed her attention. She came back, but she was a whore when she did, I was like ewww. Lol At LS your gonna here alot of NC, please follow it.
Author SoundTribe Posted October 5, 2008 Author Posted October 5, 2008 things got worse today, because now i know she is slutting about. One of my high school friends who goes to college with her called me late last night at the pledge dance and told me that she was trying to have sex with my former roommate(before I withdrew) but at the same time she is dating a Sigma Nu who is also a basketball player. Luckily my roommate is doing everything in his power to avoid her but it still hurts so bad. I've been best friends with this girl since 9th grade and she was NEVER like this. She was down to earth and serious about school. I just can't believe this.
WiseOne1 Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 things got worse today, because now i know she is slutting about. One of my high school friends who goes to college with her called me late last night at the pledge dance and told me that she was trying to have sex with my former roommate(before I withdrew) but at the same time she is dating a Sigma Nu who is also a basketball player. Luckily my roommate is doing everything in his power to avoid her but it still hurts so bad. I've been best friends with this girl since 9th grade and she was NEVER like this. She was down to earth and serious about school. I just can't believe this. Yea I was dating my ex GF from HighSchool along time ago, we started dating in middle school, and once she got to HighSchool she changed. Guys started to notice her, because most of the same guys didnt find her attractive until HS. She wanted to break up because she says she wants to date other people, she slutted around alot, and we shared some of the same friends so I had no choice but to hear about it all. But sooner or later after she got use to it, she no longer wanted it. And she cameback but she was a porn star when she did.
BackonTrack Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 You guys are lucky. Ex was cheating on me a good 6 months before she finally got the courage to pull the trigger and tell me to **** off. Not a peep from her since other than a call telling me to stop harassing her. Anyway, its been like 6 or 7 months of NC. I have no sexual desire toward this particular female any longer, it all went away. My view sort of changed on her to one of a trickster and player. It doesn't disgust me but i'm like WOW, she played me for a fool. Honestly I can't even believe I loved that girl, she was no good. Everyone warned me but I sure didn't listen. Whats funny is she would say things like "I'm not like that, we are not like that", we are not sexually loose girls, ask about me around campus. She made it a POINT to declare she wasn't like this but she was. She was fooling around on me for months, hell even blamed me for it. I am not sure what I'm saying but as I learn more about relationships, I'm like wow, this girl wasn't a good pick in the grand scheme of things. I thought she was, but she fooled me good. Its like my mind and my heart is fighting each other, my mind tells me she's no good, my heart tells it was so good but something happen. Yeah that something happening was her ****ing this OM. I highly doubt she will ever return, I cursed the **** out of her, but she came back anyway, the final draw was when I broke down and cried and told her to be happy and then told her to come back, thats when she went OFF on me and told me to **** off and she's in a serious relationship. I don't understand why she's so anger when she's the whore. Anyway thats old information, almost half-year old. For all I know she could of already moved on to a new relationship or started ****ing someone else, I have no idea what she is up too, nor do I really care but what I can say is, she cheated on all her boyfriends with a new person and then always went back to the last boyfriend to have sex again when the new guy wasn't around. Seems to be her pattern, so far she's done it 3 times. I'm not judging her but I'm like wow, how do you managed to deal with all those emmotions of getting over someone in your head AND maintain a relationship and maintain the lies. Man thats has to be emmotionally draining. I don't know how she managed to pull it off. Whats even worse is during the course of the breakup, my stupid girl was like "Why are you being so hypercritical, you are doing the same thing", I'm like oh my god, she didn't understand why I was so anger. That dumb whore. She's so stupid. Anyway, girls are just like men and they want to have sex too. The problem lies when you still have feelings for them and they don't love you anymore so they do as they like because its their body. Can't really control that. In hindsight though, I'm sort of happy this happen now before I married her. I would of really been ****ed if this relationship would of progressed. Sooner or later we would of hit a brick wall and she would of cheated on me n left. One last thing, my ex had all these crazy notions in her head about me, started thinking all these negative things, I'm donig the same thing now. She was already gone, I just refused to believe it. I sort of feel like a fool now, I wish I could of just ended things that day I cursed her out n broke up with her. I'm upset at myself I put so much emmotional support into that girl. I feel as if I wasted my time on her. I feel as if she used me until she found someone else. I feel as if she must of never really loved me. It felt so real, man I want that back. I was sure she was the one. Its hard convincing myself, it was all a lie. Its hard swallowing that pill. Cheating really messes up a relationship BIG TIME.
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