alwayssme Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Now i can understand why it is so hard for people to stop drinking or smoking. It is so hard for me to let go of my ex, it has gotten to the point where it feels downright impossible! I love him with all my heart and the LAST thing I want to do is live without him, but it's what I have to do because he left me! How do I cope? I still talk to him because I go insane if I don't. When I tried not to talk to him, I literally cried myself to sleep every night. How do I deal with this? Any advise?
AriaIncognito Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 You are thwarting your own recovery by talking to him. If you have a drinking problem, do you think it's wise to have a drink every day? No. Same goes for this. You said it yourself, you're addicted to your ex. But you need to stop. You aren't together, and you need to form a life without him in it. Go no contact. If you don't, well, you will continue to find yourself in this situation.
Final Girl Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Definitely stop ALL contact...and find a new focus!! Take up a new class, or develop a new interest, like photography, painting, anything that might help, even if it's just a little. It is the hardest thing in the world, to have these all-consuming thoughts. Sooo painful. But staying away completely is the only way it is going to get better.
CherishG Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Alwayys, please, please please girl, YOU NEED TO GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF. Take a big, deep breath. I think you are going to have to calm down and just relax. I totally understand what your going through, You feel like your life is ending, that ur world just got rocked and you simply can't live or breathe without him... but so far, you're still here... ALIVE... it might be hella hurting right now, but you need to take a step back and look at the whole picture. If you continue to act like this, you will end up pushing him away, you don't want that do you? I know you said you continue to talk to him as friends, but maybe right now it's not a good idea. Right now it's all about YOU... and rebuilding yourself up again. You need to focus on YOU... and I hate to see anything happening to you. Post a million times to ease ur mind, but relax.
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