williamz Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Was together with the girl for pretty much entire freshman year of college. Last day at school as I'm leaving, she's bawling her eyes out telling me how she's gonna be miserable all summer without me and she doesn't know what she's gonna do without me. A couple weeks into the summer she starts acting weird, and I basically have to figure out myself that we're broken up. She never has the courage to even have the "break up" conversation. I go pretty much NC the rest of the summer, save for a few texts and calls from her after I ignored her birthday, and another call is her crying hysterically telling me how lonely and depressed she is (not even mentioning she misses me or is sorry or wants to reconcile, just calling to tell me shes depressed cause no one loves her, when she dumped me and I still love her) So first day back at school after 3 months of limited contact. She sends tons of "i feel so weird being here without being your girlfriend" and finally "I miss you alot" so thinking with my dick I get her to come over. We eventually have sex. She makes it perfectly clear the next morning that she's not my gf. And then basically goes back to the indifferent mode, where she couldn't care less about me. And once again I'm left with the rug pulled out under me having to figure things out for myself. Fast forward to a month after we have sex, I come down with a horrible illness. And it turns out I have mononucleosis. Which I'm 99% sure I got from her (her roommate happened to get it last year, we think shes a carrier). considering a month is how long it takes to show up after you get it and its called the "kissing disease". I am now back at home after having to withdraw from my classes because I've been extremely sick with the mono for a month. I haven't really had much contact with the ex at all except when I put up an away message that said "tested positive for mono, wonder who gave me that". She im'd me extremely belligerently. After months of her treating me horribly and never even having the courage to break up with me formally face to face or even give me one reason, I finally just tell her she was a coward for not doing that. She concludes by laughing at me and saying "people break up every day. get over it. i hate talking to you, i gain nothing from talking to you. you're whiny and complaining. you're ****ing insane" So I'm left with a horrible illness, had to withdraw from school. All I've ever wanted was the normal social etiquette that says you at least break up with someone on the phone. I didn't even get that. And when I complain about it, I'm deemed ****ing insane and whiny and needy. I can not fathom someone being so insensitive and cold, and I am so disappointed with myself for dragging this out so long. I don't know why i just typed this all out, i guess i just want someone else to tell me that i am not crazy for thinking this type of behavior is insane.
bubblegum Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 I'm sorry you're so sick and had to withdraw from school right now, that's awful! And I'm sorry your ex is so selfish, because that's what it sounds like she is, incredibly selfish. Sounds like she can't take any responsibility and just feels anger or self-pity. The laughing at you part takes the cake! What a cold person.
kizik Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 You're not insane. Repeat, you're not insane. What you've gone through is a sh*t situation with an "evil ex," as you say, but don't worry: you'll choose a better girl next time. I'm very sorry you have had to deal with such cruelty. There is absolutely no excuse for it. All you can do is to STAY AWAY from her. I hope you feel better soon, my friend. -k
Deegee Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Yep, you win, YOUR ex IS evil. And basically a user, and a coward. She cries and tells you that she's lonely, and no one loves her, then she turns around and is mean and hurtful to you?! Be glad you're rid of her, and believe you me, she'll have hers coming. You know what they say, "what goes around comes around.."
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