UnamedSeven Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 I just recently met this girl through High School and she just moved here. I can say that i have a huge "crush" on her and its only been 3 weeks since i've known her. Just yesterday, i told her that i liked her. Note: we both know a lot about each other, and are close friends. Anyway, she said how she just broke up with her boyfriend and didn't want to have a relationship right now. I can't blame her, but i'm not sure if i should stop liking her. I feel that i should stop because i am getting the impression that she doesn't like me, as much as i like her. I've been hurt by girls in the past, i would really don't want to experience that again with this new girl. Any help at all is deeply appreciated and i thank you for your support -Danny
Angel1111 Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Why would you stop liking someone just because they don't want to go out with you? Sounds kind of conditional, doesn't it? Sincere liking is about that person and the things you see in them. If you can just stop liking her out of the blue like that, then it wasn't genuine to start with.
Author UnamedSeven Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 I like her for who she is. Which is the complete opposite for every other girl i have liked. Not to mention, but i am just afraid that my heart will be hurt again, just as it was before, if i were to continue to like her and get nothing back.
Angel1111 Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 I think what you'll need to do is to stop pining over her. But the truth is, if you remain her friend then she could end up seeing you for who you are and end up liking you back. Most people's initial reactions to people or situations are often not permanent. If you're her friend, you have the perfect opportunity to turn things around. I mean, don't put your life on hold for her but you never know what might happen.
Author UnamedSeven Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 Thanks. Its been hard to actually talk to her, as of late. We usually walk home from school and between classes. I'm not too sure how i can "turn things around" though..
Angel1111 Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 She's not in a place to get involved with anyone right now and she's smart to know that about herself. I can't tell you how many times I've bounced from one relationship to another, without any breathing space. It was a bad idea every time. Respect where she's at with that and don't take it personally. If you extract yourself from her life and stop being there for her, you won't have the chance to be there when she wants to vent about her past relationship, or to learn what a great guy you are. Just because you're blown away by her doesn't mean she has to be blown away by you right away. The great thing about this is that if a guy is nuts enough about a woman, he can often turn her head and get her to fall in love with him. This is not often the case the other way around for some reason. Use this as an opportunity to get to know her, and for her to get to know you, and to just have fun. You have nothing to gain - at least in terms of advancing the relationship - if you disappear.
Author UnamedSeven Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 Very True. Its amazing that I, too, have bounced from starting new friendships, to ending some. I can see where you are coming from. Its more than obvious that i have to give this some time. I'm just afraid that she will fall for some other guy. I am basically, impatient but i do have good intentions. I didn't want there to be any confusion, later on. and to let her know how i feel. But now, since i told her on Thursday that i liked her (she told me what i said earlier and was fine. Actually, she was happy), yesterday, she kept on being sad and just, trying to not tell me something after i asked if anything was wrong. I couldn't say much other than just that i would be there if things would get bad or if she wanted to talk about her past relationship. Which made her smile. I am just confused on why she's acting weird sometimes, and being normal, other times.
Angel1111 Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Very True. Its amazing that I, too, have bounced from starting new friendships, to ending some. I can see where you are coming from. Its more than obvious that i have to give this some time. I'm just afraid that she will fall for some other guy. I am basically, impatient but i do have good intentions. I didn't want there to be any confusion, later on. and to let her know how i feel. But now, since i told her on Thursday that i liked her (she told me what i said earlier and was fine. Actually, she was happy), yesterday, she kept on being sad and just, trying to not tell me something after i asked if anything was wrong. I couldn't say much other than just that i would be there if things would get bad or if she wanted to talk about her past relationship. Which made her smile. I am just confused on why she's acting weird sometimes, and being normal, other times. Hey, there are lots of times that I'd love to be a mind-reader, or a fly on the wall. Sometimes you just don't know. I think you're doing great with her. Just give it a little time. Risk is always involved where deep emotions abound. You know this. That's just the way it is.
Author UnamedSeven Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 Yeah. Is there anything else i can maybe do, to sort of, prevent going "over board" or just to maintain a better friendship with her? Thanks...again P.S. I will answer back tomorrow when i wake up.
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