Aquarian66 Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Hello everyone.I have broken up with my 1.5 cheating b/f last month.We have been in NO Contact since then. I have a question:Does my ex ever remembered me helping him financially when he had run out of cash while we were together?Does he ever thought of paying me back?Thank you so very much for reading.
mixwell Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Hello everyone.I have broken up with my 1.5 cheating b/f last month.We have been in NO Contact since then. I have a question:Does my ex ever remembered me helping him financially when he had run out of cash while we were together?Does he ever thought of paying me back?Thank you so very much for reading. I doubt he thinks of paying you back but I'm pretty sure that even though you are broken up he does remember you helping him out and I'm sure he is thankful for it. It seems like the initial stages of a breakup all you can think about are the bad things but after time goes on its harder to have malice towards them. Of course unless they did you wrong and cheated on you or something harsh like that. When its a case of things didn't work out them you do remember the good times more often than the bad times seems like.. I wish It were the other way around because then it would be a lot easier to get over them haha
CherishG Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 To the original poster: Do you have intentions of asking him to pay you back? just wondering
mixwell Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 To the original poster: Do you have intentions of asking him to pay you back? just wondering I was wondering the same thing.. If he didn't ask you and offer to pay you back then I wouldn't even contact him asking that but if he asked for a loan and offered to pay then I would say F it and hit him up about it if thats the case..
watermeloncandy Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Hello everyone.I have broken up with my 1.5 cheating b/f last month.We have been in NO Contact since then. I have a question:Does my ex ever remembered me helping him financially when he had run out of cash while we were together?Does he ever thought of paying me back?Thank you so very much for reading. i don't know if he remembers or not. did you guys sign something? my ex borrowed a lot of money off me while we were dating so i made him sign a contract agreeing that he'd pay me back and the payment schedule. so he's stuck. he has to. i dont' know how much money he owes you and if it's even worth breaking NC for, but if it is, i'd suggest you call him and speak to him about it. just remain very a-matter-of-fact and remind him that he still owes you the money and you'd like to get it back as soon as possible. he can write you post dated cheques if necessary (that's what mine did). if he has any conscience, he'll do what's right even though he's a cheating jerk. if he doesn't then chalk it up to a learning experience and the next time you loan anyone money, make sure you have something in writing. then it'll stand up in small claims court, believe me.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 If you gave him the money, I assume he thought of it as a gift. If, when you gave it to him, you made it clear that it was a loan, then you should call and ask for payback. But don't do that if he needed money and you simply handed it over saying, "Here ya go, honey, have some of mine!"
Author Aquarian66 Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 Thank u very much for the replies.But unfortunately, we didnt sign any contract of loan or something.I just handed him the money when he ran out of cash.But u are so right if he has the conscience, he will pay back.Its quite a lot..Thousands USD... No, I didnt contact him to pay me or expect to pay back..I am just relying on his conscience since he is an educated, professional man.Just wondering why get money from me when he could have gotten it from his other g/fs coz as far as I know he was cheating on me that time.And yes, that would serve as a learning experience for me.What a very expensive experience I should say!Thank you again.
Author Aquarian66 Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 Neither did he contacted me yet that he is gonna pay me. Our break up actually wasn't a mutual decision.When I learned of his cheating, I left a voicemail asking him if it's true.Maybe out of guilt, he didnt call back to confirm or deny it.So, I left it at that.I didnt call again.We just drifted apart without closure and its more than a month now we havent been contacting each other.And I learned he dumped this girl he is cheating me on with .But still he hadn't contacted me.I dont know he'll ever will because of embarassment, shame and guilt maybe. I am moving on now.I just hope he'll have conscience enough to pay me back. Thank u again for reading.
watermeloncandy Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 i'm sorry to hear that it's so much money. i hope he does pay you back, but unfortunately people who cheat usually don't have a conscience in the first place. good luck!
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