trum39 Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Hello, I met a girl through a dating website and have only known her for two weeks. We haven't met yet, just swapped photos etc and chatted on the phone but things between us are really firing. After the first night we chatted on MSN we both agreed that we felt like we knew each other really well. We are both 40 and have children to previous relationships. We chat everynight on the phone until 3-4 am in the morning and have so much in common. We have talked about our future together but use words like "If" we get together and know that its not a certain thing just yet. We have asked ourselves if we should worry that it is so full on between us as I have had a couple of friends say it is. But we both agree its just how we feel, it feels natural and were enjoying each others company. We have agreed to meet once we have known each other for four weeks and have both said that we know there might not be a physical attraction there and if so then we can accept that. Although I must admit we are both happy with what weve seen in photos etc. So does anyone have any similar experinces like this? Should we tone it back a bit or go with our gut instincts and feelings?
whichwayisup Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 We have talked about our future together but use words like "If" we get together and know that its not a certain thing just yet. Already you BOTH have built up a fantasy. You need to meet in person as soon as possible and take it offline. Keeping it online feeds the fantasy and each of you are TOO comfortable in that mode. Get off the computer, make arrangements and GO to dinner!
D-Lish Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 I agree with WWIU... take it offline ASAP, the sooner the better. There is no point in wasting a month before meeting. I have had many great conversations, connections, chemistry, etc with guys I have met from online dating. But I never ever take any of it seriously until I actually meet them. I have been disappointed 80% of the time... It's so rare people look like their pics- and often, the chemistry I have felt online/on the phone has been different in person. Seriously- get that meeting soon. The longer you hold off, the more you build the fantasy...
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