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I was at a party last night and I discovered something about the girl that I really liked for a very long time. She might even be the closest I have ever come to loving anyone in my short time on earth. She is the only girl to ever make me cry, and not just once but twice. I really really cared about her.

 

Her best friend told me that this girl (Jane) had confided in her that she was in fact a bi-sexual. This really shattered me because Jane had said she didn't want to be with me because she could never see me the way I saw her. All of my relationships with girls have ended miserably but this one has really cut me for some reason. I really did care about her so much, and every time I see her or speak to her now I feel a really unpleasant wrenching feeling in my gut and I start feeling more depressed.

 

I'm not really sure how to feel right now, I'm really confused. Did she not want to be me because she'd rather be with a girl? Or am I just really inadequate as an option for a lover?

 

Reading over this it feels like the sort of thing someone makes out to be a big deal but it actually isn't that major. To me though it matters very much. Ever since she had let me down I had tried to move on from her but always she was in the back of my mind, and I was hoping that somehow a miracle would occur and we would end up being together (crazy talk I know lol). It's just really difficult to move on and I'm not sure what to do. It still hurts so much...

 

Thanks for reading this, sorry it's not really a question but more letting my thoughts out. Any comments/advice would be great.

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You sound young, Rudeger, so I'll just say that this won't be the first time you'll have feelings unreturned. And the 'friend' could be a 'frenemy' and just told you that Jane was bi to start a rumor. You don't know, and at this point, it doesn't matter. Jane told you how she felt.

 

You'll get over it and move on. Really. Hang in there.

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You sound young, Rudeger, so I'll just say that this won't be the first time you'll have feelings unreturned. And the 'friend' could be a 'frenemy' and just told you that Jane was bi to start a rumor. You don't know, and at this point, it doesn't matter. Jane told you how she felt.

 

You'll get over it and move on. Really. Hang in there.

 

Thanks. Well actually I have been under the impression that the friend or "frenemy" actually has a thing for me. She's very suggestive in her actions around me, always calls me, suggests we hook up and is constantly telling me to get over Jane. I always listen to her advice though, and have done my best to move on.

I was just really shocked to hear that she was bi, for some reason my brain instantly understood this to mean that its now certain she would never be with me, even though i know bi doesn't = lesbian. I guess I'm just having a hard time accepting... even though I know I have to get over it asap.

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I guess I missed the part where Jane told you this herself. If you don't hear it directly from her, don't believe it.

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I guess I missed the part where Jane told you this herself. If you don't hear it directly from her, don't believe it.

 

This is what he said Jane said: Jane had said she didn't want to be with me because she could never see me the way I saw her.

Jane never said the bi stuff, and I agree; don't believe it just because someone else said so. Knock it out of your head as truth. Right now, it's rumor. And true or not, it doesn't change what jane said to him, and even if it were true, it wouldn't mean anything about his suitability as a mate.

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