wayfaerer1 Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 It's been a month now since we broke up...and about 3 weeks since we stopped talking, well since I told her we shouldn't talk anymore for a while. I guess partly because it's the weekend, and partly because I just feel alone today... Just a rough day - I keep having flash backs of our relationship and all the fun things we did together. And it just makes me feel god aweful inside. I haven't felt this alone in a long time. She was my security blanket - when I had a bad day I could always turn to her for comfort, or for whatever reason, she was always there. And I keep thinking that she's out again this weekend having the time of her life, while I'm sitting here still not over her yet, still depressed, still devastated. I feel worthless...
alwayssme Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 i know how u feel, it sucks... i feel the same way but i try to keep myself busy...i actually go on dates, hang out wit friends, go to school...etc...still talk to my ex which im about to stop and start no contact...no matter what i do i still miss him...but it does help to get out the house and get ur mind off of it... and remember that its OKAY to feel this way...to me feeling sad about it is fine as long as its not making your life miserable...(some days i feel too much pain, others im sad but okay, and others im content)...letting go is hard but remember so0oo many people go through this...we are not the first ones to lose someone we love and we wont be the last...i know its not that much of a comfort but just know that your not alone!!
Meaplus3 Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 It's been a month now since we broke up...and about 3 weeks since we stopped talking, well since I told her we shouldn't talk anymore for a while. I guess partly because it's the weekend, and partly because I just feel alone today... Just a rough day - I keep having flash backs of our relationship and all the fun things we did together. And it just makes me feel god aweful inside. I haven't felt this alone in a long time. She was my security blanket - when I had a bad day I could always turn to her for comfort, or for whatever reason, she was always there. And I keep thinking that she's out again this weekend having the time of her life, while I'm sitting here still not over her yet, still depressed, still devastated. I feel worthless... Don't feel worthless because your not. Your simply going through the motions of getting over someone who was an important part of your life at one time. Healing and moving past your feelings takes time. You will get there. Try and think of something fun that you can do for yourself because your worth it.Hang in there. AP:)
Author wayfaerer1 Posted October 3, 2008 Author Posted October 3, 2008 Thanks guys...I appreciate the support. I don't how I'd be dealing with this all without everyone's encouragement on here - It helps to hear it from others who have been/are going through this as well. I know I'm worth it, and I keep trying to tell myself that, I just can't seem to shake these negative thoughts. No contact is hell.
mixwell Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 It's been a month now since we broke up...and about 3 weeks since we stopped talking, well since I told her we shouldn't talk anymore for a while. I guess partly because it's the weekend, and partly because I just feel alone today... Just a rough day - I keep having flash backs of our relationship and all the fun things we did together. And it just makes me feel god aweful inside. I haven't felt this alone in a long time. She was my security blanket - when I had a bad day I could always turn to her for comfort, or for whatever reason, she was always there. And I keep thinking that she's out again this weekend having the time of her life, while I'm sitting here still not over her yet, still depressed, still devastated. I feel worthless... And I'm sure since you haven't talked to her she thinks you're out having fun this weekend and she is depressed.. Thats always the thought when you breakup is that they're over it and out having fun forgetting about you which isn't always true.. How do you know she isn't sitting at home this weekend thinking the same thing you're ? The thing is that you should be out doing something.. If you have a gym membership then go to the gym... I find that with all this free time on my hands now from not being with my ex that I enjoy going to the gym because it gives me something to do and basically once I get off work 6pm I usually don't do anything after that anyways.. Let me tell you an observation I actually made with my current ex by her saying.. We broke up beginning of Sept and I didn't talk to her much.. I was bummed out a lot and got back into the gym but still didn't really go out to clubs or whatever but we met on the 14th because I wanted to talk to her and she said something to the effect of "Have you been going out a lot lately ?" which led me to believe that in her mind since the breakup I was out partying and hanging out with other girls when in reality I was just working, going to the gym and at times on the weekend just chilling at home and at times thinking of her being bummed out.. I actually have been going to my sisters house which is about 1hr away to get away from the area and spend time with my niece and nephew to not think about it... So goes to show that the other person is possibly feeling/thinking the same way about you as you do with them.. This weekend is a good example since its Friday and I"m not going crap and as I think about my ex I picture her out having fun or with some other guy but theres a chance she MIGHT be doing the same thing I am doing and being bummed out... The thing is that I've gone through it before and am much stronger now that its not affecting me too bad even tho I might think about her and that it sucks those thoughts quickly exit my mind and I move onto something else.. Good luck and hope this gives you a different perspective on it..
CherishG Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 And I'm sure since you haven't talked to her she thinks you're out having fun this weekend and she is depressed.. Thats always the thought when you breakup is that they're over it and out having fun forgetting about you which isn't always true.. How do you know she isn't sitting at home this weekend thinking the same thing you're ? The thing is that you should be out doing something.. If you have a gym membership then go to the gym... I find that with all this free time on my hands now from not being with my ex that I enjoy going to the gym because it gives me something to do and basically once I get off work 6pm I usually don't do anything after that anyways.. Let me tell you an observation I actually made with my current ex by her saying.. We broke up beginning of Sept and I didn't talk to her much.. I was bummed out a lot and got back into the gym but still didn't really go out to clubs or whatever but we met on the 14th because I wanted to talk to her and she said something to the effect of "Have you been going out a lot lately ?" which led me to believe that in her mind since the breakup I was out partying and hanging out with other girls when in reality I was just working, going to the gym and at times on the weekend just chilling at home and at times thinking of her being bummed out.. I actually have been going to my sisters house which is about 1hr away to get away from the area and spend time with my niece and nephew to not think about it... So goes to show that the other person is possibly feeling/thinking the same way about you as you do with them.. This weekend is a good example since its Friday and I"m not going crap and as I think about my ex I picture her out having fun or with some other guy but theres a chance she MIGHT be doing the same thing I am doing and being bummed out... The thing is that I've gone through it before and am much stronger now that its not affecting me too bad even tho I might think about her and that it sucks those thoughts quickly exit my mind and I move onto something else.. Good luck and hope this gives you a different perspective on it.. well in my situation, I know the ex is not even remotely worried or thinking about me going out... how can I? I've got an infant to care for. And plus, I have no family here, they're in another country. My friends are also far away... It's just me and my baby girl, so I know he's not worried about me going out or probably doesn't care. **Consider urself luck wayf that you CAN go out. U have been doing such a great job so far with NC, so proud of u! You could do this, we all can!
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