Author Shygirl15 Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 Charming indeed! Such a turn-off. Especially the "cutie" part, when he doesn't even know you. I bet he uses that on every female. You know the type that calls every female "cutie" or "sweetie"? Such a turn off.
carhill Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 But, see, if you liked him, it would be a turn-on. The real alpha males do this all the time and the women just swoon. My eyes and ears do work, even with advancing age The reality is these guys are pretenders, to you at least....
Lucky_One Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Women DESPISE short men. Usually if you are anything below average height (or even of average height), you are dead and it is GAME OVER before you have ever had the chance to say anything. Not every woman does. I don't mind a man's height. I find shorter men to be more "comfortable" for me. We are nose to nose when we slow dance, we can both nap on the same couch without feet hanging off the sofa, I can have a beautiful mahogany bed with a footboard without his feet hitting it, when we make love his chin isn't digging into the top of my head bc we are mouth to mouth and are able to kiss the entire time without contortion, no one gets a crick in their neck if we make out standing up, we spoon perfectly no matter who is in front or in back. I wear heels when I want to, and no shorter man has ever seemed to care - if anything, they love to look at my legs in heels. All in all - hurrah for short men!!!
xpaperxcutx Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 ShyG, I disagree with some of the posters on here about the height issue. It's not the main factor of not wanting to date him, but it can't be overlooked either. First and foremost, I think it's the email. The lack of a anything shows that how little interest he has in wanting to pursue the first steps. It doesn't matter how much he wrote on his profile about his busy schedule, if he had the time to fill ou all the questionaires and writing about his interests, I don't see why he can't even write one sentence to ask about you in the email instead of just a subject headliner? That's a turn-off opening an email and seeing nothing.
Serph Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 No, as always, the issue is that the OP is a woman and she has dozens and dozens of options and guys who court her online, and thus she is very scornful and picky picky picky because she can. Why give a chance to anyone who isn't immediately exceptionnal when there are always more males who're going to flock to her?
Jersey Shortie Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 I barely reach 5 feet and I have dated men 6+ ..much to the somewhat snotty comments from taller women about that being unfair. I didn't purposly pick these guys, ironically, I get asked out more by taller men then shorter ones.
Author Shygirl15 Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 First and foremost, I think it's the email. The lack of a anything shows that how little interest he has in wanting to pursue the first steps. It doesn't matter how much he wrote on his profile about his busy schedule, if he had the time to fill ou all the questionaires and writing about his interests, I don't see why he can't even write one sentence to ask about you in the email instead of just a subject headliner? That's a turn-off opening an email and seeing nothing. My thoughts exactly. I gave him one last shot, so let's see how he responds to that.
Serph Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Isolde detailed it in her latest thread: many guys take their time to make a polite, articulate message like the ones Shygirl says she wishes for, but let's judge actions instead of words, let's see what happens when these messages crafted with care actually come in the woman's inbox... she skips them entirely, scrolls down to the pic, and BANG! BANG! the poor average-looking guys are already sniped out and shot dead.
carhill Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Another way of looking at it is that the "poor, average-looking guy" just dodged a bullet (instead of being "shot dead") with a superficial prospect who likely would have "settled" for him if she "gave him a chance". The essence of compatibility (or the reverse, in this instance). Karma at work in the universe
Author Shygirl15 Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 Well, I have always "purposely" picked out taller guys over short ones, reason being I feel more comfortable and protected with a tall guy wrapping his arms around me, then I get to rest my head on his shoulders when we walk, or even when we dance. It feels more romantic reaching upwards for a kiss, than reaching across (urgh). And in general tall guys are more confident and do not need to try hard to look attractive. The few short guys have dated seemed very insecure, especially when we were in public and there was several tall guys around.
nopainnogain Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Well, I have always "purposely" picked out taller guys over short ones, reason being I feel more comfortable and protected with a tall guy wrapping his arms around me, then I get to rest my head on his shoulders when we walk, or even when we dance. It feels more romantic reaching upwards for a kiss, than reaching across (urgh). And in general tall guys are more confident and do not need to try hard to look attractive. The few short guys have dated seemed very insecure, especially when we were in public and there was several tall guys around. You dont need to be tal or short to have confidence. The guys you encountered that were insecure were just, insecure. How about bob sanders of the indianapolis colts . He is 5-8 210 lbs all muscle. He the baddest mofo on the field. He takes out dudes twice his size.
Serph Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 You dont need to be tal or short to have confidence. The guys you encountered that were insecure were just, insecure. How about bob sanders of the indianapolis colts . He is 5-8 210 lbs all muscle. He the baddest mofo on the field. He takes out dudes twice his size. What does it matter? Her candor tells otherwise, they're already dead if they're even somewhat short. They might be confident, but she won't ever give them the time of day. She has countless other guys who approach her and are tall, and more and more every week to fill up her inbox. How could an average guy ever stand a chance? How could he prove her that he's indeed confident if he'll always be dead in the water because of her ultra-picky standards?
Author Shygirl15 Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 I happen to have preferences that I would like to stick by, so though they may sound superficial to some it's what makes me comfortable. This person is 5'5", not really the height I'm looking for but he has a great career, educated, and appears to be doing very well financially. Check. And it's true; a sweet, well-crafted email still does not guarantee a response. There has to be balance between that and other criterias I'm looking for in a guy. NoPain: I'm talking about my own experience with short guys. It may not be the same in every short guy out there, but I was speaking from what I have personally observed.
Jersey Shortie Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 You dont need to be tal or short to have confidence. The guys you encountered that were insecure were just, insecure. How about bob sanders of the indianapolis colts . He is 5-8 210 lbs all muscle. He the baddest mofo on the field. He takes out dudes twice his size. Or Wayne Chrebet!..although now retired. Hey I agree with you though. It's more about confidence then it is how tall or short you are. Shorter guys seem to have a complex and if they could just override that and be more confident..they would get more women.
Green Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 earth girls are easy when your super tall and handsome
Author Shygirl15 Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 earth girls are easy when your super tall and handsome Your avatars are weird. Lol..
Green Posted October 4, 2008 Posted October 4, 2008 Your avatars are weird. Lol.. Whats weird about drinking a beer?
Jersey Shortie Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 Drinking beer is "cool". I'm so "cool" because I go out and drink. Everyone is "cool" when they go out and drink.
D-Lish Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 ... let's see what happens when these messages crafted with care actually come in the woman's inbox... she skips them entirely, scrolls down to the pic, and BANG! BANG! the poor average-looking guys are already sniped out and shot dead. That's the first thing I do- scroll down to the pic. What's average looking to certain individuals is sexy to others. Most of my friends disagree on who we think is hot. We all have different tastes. I do hate the generic cut and paste messages- and they are so painfully obvious. I delete them immediately. So what did I miss shygirl? Did he respond?
Author Shygirl15 Posted October 5, 2008 Author Posted October 5, 2008 So what did I miss shygirl? Did he respond Hahaha! I found this, this morning: I had a nice day. Went golfing in the morning, then went salsa dancing with a friend. We later went for dinner, and that was about it. I'm feeling pretty exhausted tonight. I love the way he didn't ask anything about me. I also feel the friend talked about is a female (not that it means anything). I better close this match. Moreso, because someone else with better communication skills and height has already picked up my interest in a big way.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 If they don't ask me questions, that is a big red flag for me. You opened your mind, gathered a little more information, and are ready to move on. Sounds like a good move to me at this point.
Author Shygirl15 Posted October 5, 2008 Author Posted October 5, 2008 Sounds like a good move to me at this point. Thanks. Yes, I closed the match this morning. This 6'2" cop is very interesting. He even writes better emails than an attorney! I mean, who would think that could be possible. No more attorneys for me,thanks.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Thanks. Yes, I closed the match this morning. This 6'2" cop is very interesting. He even writes better emails than an attorney! I mean, who would think that could be possible. No more attorneys for me,thanks. You know they are a dime a dozen here in DC anyway!
sfsassy Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 5'5" means he's probably 5'3". A few years back, someone set me up on a blind date. They told me the guy was about 5'8". Being 5'6" myself, I had to really get creative with footwear, since I always wear heels. Anyhoo, we met at a bar. The kind with bar stools. And when we sat down, his tiny little legs didn't even reach the bottom bar. He was probably about 5'5". I am just SO not attracted to someone that tiny - even his fingers looked dwarfish. Look at it this way, Shy. Tiny guy, tiny message. Lol. I'm 5'2, and I went out with a guy a couple of times who was 5'0. Nice guy, but I just couldn't get past the height. I've stayed pretty much within the 5' something range with people I have dated, but 5'0 is just too short.
Atlas Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Hmm I think you may have misread him. Or perhaps you've been out of the dating game? In my experience with women at least...shorter is better when it comes to texting...and although I've never dated online, I can only imagine it must be close. First open communication? and he says "Hey there shygirl." I'm guessing thats your user name? Not that odd that he would write just that. Sounds very flirty to me. I wouldn't dismiss it as anything else really....and if you don't like flirting thats not his fault.
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