qtkat31 Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 Ok, I have a question for anyone who's willing to help me understand a little something here..My bf and I have been dating for 2yrs now, talked about marriage etc. (still no ring but that's another subject) anyway, he stays at my house some and when he thinks he's gonna stay the next night he just leaves his laptop at my house. Well, last night he didn't end up coming over b/c he had to work so late so I decided I was gonna look some things up with his lap top, while looking things up I noticed something that is REALLY bothering me. We both have myspace profiles and he has one particular girl on his friends list that he's been with sexually and it's fine being friends with her as long as they're not having contact everyday or anything. I've noticed him looking at her profile lately and doing a search for several other girls he's dated in the past. Why is he doing that? She also goes to church that we attend and when she's there he stares at her...Why? I've told him before that it bothers me that he looks at her so much, it would be different if it was a glance every now and then but it's plainly staring! It's bad to say this but she's nothing to stare at and he's even talked about the things she does/done is not what he wants in a girl/woman. Then why stare at her and look up her profile? Why do guys do this? and why is he looking up other girls he's dated if he only wants to be with me? We are in a serious relationship and have talked about getting married so this to me is very confusing?? I guess since I have no interest in any of my ex's I just don't get it!! or any other guys for that matter! I love him with all of my heart and it really hurts my feelings that he does this. He knows how I feel about it too but I haven't mentioned anything to him about seeing all this on his laptop b/c I don't want to seem like I keep nagging him about it...but what do I do? I'm not a jealous person but it's starting to eat away at me ALOT!!
All Star Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 Sounds to me like he's exploring his options. I have a coworker who sits next to me. Whenever I hear he break up with BF on the phone, the next day I hear her calling old BF's on the phone. I can tell that she has not talked to the guys in a while and that they are old loves from the tone of the convresations. He may be planning an exit.
kdark Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 I agree with All Star, you don't go looking elsewhere for something that you already have . He's not happy with something, and is trying to find it elsewhere.
trueblue72ny Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 what a sinking feeling that must be. and i can relate to that - not fun. all i can think right now is maybe you should try and pull back yourself emotionally if that is at all possible, and see if he comes around. my suggestion dont get soft sweet or sentimental on him. he knows how you feel. if he sees you pulling back it might jar something in him.
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