ruski Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 My situation goes something like this. I have been in a relationship for just over 3 months. I realize that "love at first sight" is for thr movies, buts thats how I felt, when i satrted dating my gf. The attraction and chemistry was unmistakeable from the beginning. I found myself falling in love, or so I thought, very fast. Our relationship seemed to just take off. We were talking long term plans after a month. Well, the problem started at about the 2 month point. We got into out first agument, and it wasnt really that much, but it seemed to bother me for awhile never the less. From that point on, I have seemed to be confused about my feelings. I want so bad to have that magic feeling that I had the first to months, but the constant stressing about if I love her has caused me alot of anxiety to the point of depression. I have already started meds and have signed up for councelling, but I dont know what to do with my gf. Shes amazing. Shes beautiful, sweet, caring, inteligent and we get along amazing. We are so compatable that I cant believe im having doubts, but I am, and they are driving me crazy. I cant shake them. I dont sleep or eat like I used to and I find that the first thought when i wake up in the morning is that of doubt towards this relationship. yet, im afraid of walking away because I know shes great and we are great together. I truly thought she was the one. I so want her to be, but I cant live my life doubting my love for her. Someone please give me any advice you can. thanx RUSKI
xxtemplexx Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 I hate to say this, but you sound like my bf right now. Is it that you're afraid of committing or do you really think that she's the wrong one for you? I have a hard time believing that you say you love her as much as you do when you are having this much anxiety and doubt. Are you sure it's not because you're afraid of being in a relationship that will last? That's almost what it sounds like to me. Either way, you need to do some soul searching, but from her side, I know she'll be crushed if you left her.
Geishawhelk Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 Rus, you know, every relationship has its ups and downs... it doesn't mean the love dies, it just evolves. My partner and I have some real humdingers.... but it's important to see past that. The thrilling butterflies-in-the-stomach, light floaty great feeling fades for everyone. It settles into a comfort and companionship. If you're having doubts, and she's so wonderful - what does it seem to be in you that is fearful of keeping on going? It takes effort you see... Effort, Communication, Trust and Respect. Communication seems to be the issue here.... Wht is it that's holding you back.......??
Author ruski Posted October 3, 2008 Author Posted October 3, 2008 I just am not sure if im in love and its causing anxiety, or my anxiety do to obsessive thinking is causing the doubt.
kdark Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 You sound like you have been burned by women in the past. From your post it sounds like she really has a great time when she's with you. Just relax, and enjoy the time you spend together.
You'reasian Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 Did something happen to cause you to lose interest?
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