gebonez Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 So let me feel you in on my situtation. Me and my girlfriend of ten months broke up almost two months ago now. She said she needed time but what she should have said she was getting back together with her soon to be ex-husband and babies dad. Which from the conversations we have had since we broke up she was doing it for her daughter. I thought i was doing good moving on, meeting new people and dating ( But i still love her). Well about 2 hours ago she called me in tears telling me that she felt alone and she felt like she could not talk to anyone but me. So ofcourse i listened and let her talk. (Which was probably a mistake now that i can not stop thinking about her again.) She started to tell me about the problems they were having and that she did not think she could do it anymore. But she could not afford to be alone money wise because he will not help with their daughter... I guess the reason I am writting is i got really frusterated and down on myself because I was taking care of her and her daughter, she left me to be with someone that did not and was pretty much an ******* the whole time i was with her. It is bring back feelings that were starting to fade. It has made me think maybe there is a chance we can get back together. But i do not want to put myself in a situtation to get hurt again. I do not kno how to proced next. HELP Please.
Geishawhelk Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 You'll have to decide whether you wish to continue being a sympathetic ear, or establish NC. For her part, she can't keep chopping and cahnging. For a start, it would be enormously de-stabilising for her daughter. It's just not fair. She will have to decide what to do, and make a decision one way or the other. Either way, you'll have to stipulate she makes this decision, but then sticks to it and no longer prevaricates or swings back and forth. Neither you, nor the daughter, should have to put up with that.
Lishy Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 I think that if you give her another chance you are putting yourself in a position to get hurt yet again I say she made her bed so let her lay in it, she knew what she was going back to, she lied to you, she broke your heart but you survived! Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me!
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