Life moves so fast - I feel like I'm in a dream... did this happen to anyone else?

[lofi_tokyo]

So its been a month since my ex and I broke up. Am I 100% over him? No. But I'd say I'm sitting around the 75%+ mark.

 

We dated for 2.5years though! And its only been a month! Not only that but...

 

In the last two weeks, its like... the entire world has shifted... possibly in my favor? My ex and I broke up the day before school started. The first two weeks I was an emotional wreak. But now... its like... the idea of him and I together seems so far away, like it happened in a distant, far off world.

 

Furthermore, I've been meeting SO MANY new people all of the sudden. Men are just approaching me out of no where, I'm hanging out with a different friend almost every day, I'm double booked, or even triple booked on weekends! In the last week I have hardly even had time to come online (gasp! since I used to live on my computer!).

I was at a classy lounge with my friend and the manager bought us three rounds of free drinks! He gave us his card and said whenever were in, to ask for him and he'll hook us up. The owner of the pasta place my friend and I go to has also befriended us and is giving us free food and chats us up always!

 

I feel like I'm living in a twilight world where... people just GIVE things to me, and people actually call me to hang out... all the time!!

 

Its fun, time is flying by but then I think...

1 month ago, I was coming home from Tokyo, and had a boyfriend I had been with for 2.5yrs. My life was so different.

 

 

And I mean, I don't know about my ex... but maybe its the same for him? I really don't know. Hes dating someone new now, but like, I havn't really talked to him at all.

 

I guess we both were prepping for a break up for months - maybe thats why things fly by?

 

 

Has anyone else had this sensation? Like... they had one wonderful life, then broke up, and suddenly had a new life, equally as wonderful, in its own, very different ways, but... cant quite figure out how things changed to fast? Its uncanny.

[EmperorR]

nope still in sadness and despair

[Eve]

I am really glad that you are enjoying your new life! I think that you have been more able to do this because of your change in environment and also because your ex has not tried to mess with your head and you have not done this to him either. Have a fabulous time! and yes, be thoughtful regarding how things can shift so easily. I think it is actually a very important lesson which you are learning. Essentially, it is my opinion that sometimes we can bind ourselves or bind others but really we are just stopping a stream of experiences from coming about. Once we are within such a 'stream', pain, heartache etc is veiwed very differently. I have linked this in with something I read somewhere which basically said that we must have a variety of 'flow experiences' everyday. This is where a person gets so engrossed within whatever they are doing that they become lost in the activity. Persons who do not have 'flow experiences' within their day to day lives are the are ones who are at greater succeptibility to depression and mental illness.

 

So, well done you! I am SO happy for you both and hope that you continue to find life a place to venture and explore.