Do he just take a really immature jab at me?? What does this mean?

[T.O.gurl]

i know some of you have heard my story but i was basically seeing a guy all of last year and it was going well up until he graduated college in may and moved back home to canada(11 hrs from me). he went backpacking through europe during the summer so we weren't able to speak as much as we would've liked but we did stay in contact.Well once he got home about 3 weeks ago i told him that the feelings were beginning to fade and i needed to move on and so he agreed to do so. we have not talked since i told him this until yesterday. i just sent him a very brief message simply telling asking how he was. he responded with "hey, not bad, yourself?" i have yet to respond. however tonight i checked my msn messagener(which before i left for work this morning i had set my status to "i love this autumn weather!"), when i got home from work and it said he was offline but his status was set to, and i quote, "hates this autumn weather, wow, autumn sucks"

[northstar1]

i know some of you have heard my story but i was basically seeing a guy all of last year and it was going well up until he graduated college in may and moved back home to canada(11 hrs from me). he went backpacking through europe during the summer so we weren't able to speak as much as we would've liked but we did stay in contact.Well once he got home about 3 weeks ago i told him that the feelings were beginning to fade and i needed to move on and so he agreed to do so. we have not talked since i told him this until yesterday. i just sent him a very brief message simply telling asking how he was. he responded with "hey, not bad, yourself?" i have yet to respond. however tonight i checked my msn messagener(which before i left for work this morning i had set my status to "i love this autumn weather!"), when i got home from work and it said he was offline but his status was set to, and i quote, "hates this autumn weather, wow, autumn sucks"

 

Possibly, but if you broke up with him and you don't have feelings, can I ask why you really care?

[T.O.gurl]

the feelings i had have begun to fade, they aren't exactly as strong as they once were. this does not mean i don't have ANY feelings left for him though. i initiated that we both move on and he didn't disagree...

[lofi_tokyo]

I think once you suggest moving on, the offer is officially on the table. He really was put in a position were he had to either a) agree with you (which he did) or b) fight an uphill battle to revive the relationship.

 

If you were feeling distant, but did not want to end things, you probably should have been honest with him and said so. Telling him you were feeling distant, and wanted to go separate ways, when you did not 100% want that was probably not a very good idea. If you expected him to fight for you when you said that, thats kinda unfair, its not nice to toy with peoples hearts.

 

As for him taking an immature jab at you? Well, I wouldn't really call it that immature, or that much of a jab. Yeah, it sounds like his status was in response to yours, but I mean... it doesn't sound like it was THAT offensive, and I mean, its a little odd he did it, but it does not really seem "childish". It just seems like he was having kind of an odd dialogue or response to your status, and not much more.

 

He probably is still hurting a bit, thats why he did that rather than say hi or something but... when you're dumped, you're dumped. It hurts to actually initiate conversation with the person who dumped you, because you've been rejected. So... maybe thats all he had. A response to nothing at all?

[lofi_tokyo]

I should also mention...

My family is from California, but we're living in Canada right now.

 

This autumn its been pretty nice... but sometimes at this time of year? Its HORRIBLE.

 

So if you're still down south, and its nice... maybe he was just missing that nice weather, and is bitter because where hes at its flippin' cold.

[T.O.gurl]

i appreciate the responses and can see the points you've made