We love each other, he's great, but I think he's settling for my body.

[hi_baby039]

In short: he said he likes breasts bigger than mine, he prefers those. Also, that I could be more toned.

 

You see, I can deal with the toning thing. However, the boob thing is harder to deal with. I can't change it you know. I asked him, and he says he knows other girls with bigger boobs, too. This isn't about celebs, it's about girls he knows and talks to.

 

Don't get me wrong, I know he wouldn't cheat because he's generally great with me and we love each other very much, and I know that love is what matters. However, it hurts a lot that this is happening. He said he'd like it better if I had bogger boobs, but that mine are ok anyway, that I look good. He has never told me to get surgery, he isn't such an a-hole. I wouldn't want surgery anyway, nor would I do anything like that for a guy.

 

However, now I feel self conscious about him touching me. I also feel awful when I see a woman with big breasts, and also I picture him talking to these women he knows and mentally salivating. I think he'd enjoy those better. I feel like he's settling for me. How can I stop the hurt?

[LucreziaBorgia]

How did you come about finding this out? Did he volunteer this information?

[JohnnyBlaze]

However, now I feel self conscious about him touching me. I also feel awful when I see a woman with big breasts, and also I picture him talking to these women he knows and mentally salivating.

 

Huh, whaddya know? A guy touches a girl, and SHE'S the one thinking about other girls!

 

Seriously, Baby, just relax and enjoy it. I could tell you my idea of the 'perfect' woman. I could also tell you that every girl I've dated is no where near matching that list. My point is that we don't have a say in who we're attracted to. Just remember, he chose to be with you. Whatever it is that you have to offer, he obviously wants that more than big boobs.

 

Another girl may be his 'type', but you are his girl.

[Angel1111]

I used to be married to a guy who was totally into blue-eyed, blonde haired women. I'm a blue-eyed brunette. I never really adjusted to the fact that there was another type of woman that could totally turn his head, someone I'd never be. It made me feel de-valued and it was always a dark cloud in our marriage. I've never dated another guy like that since because it bugged me too much.

 

I don't know what to tell you except that I think it was pretty ignorant of your bf to tell you that. Your boobs may not be earthshattering to him, but his lack of diplomacy isn't really all that impressive, either.