alwayssme Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 sometimes i cant stop thinking of things i did wrong and wish i never did them...but he told me it wasnt because of that, he just doesnt feel that way towards me anymore...and i try telling myself im human, we make mistakes but i cant help but to think..."maybe this could have worked out if something was done different".......i cant wait to get through this stage.....love hurts too much....
CherishG Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 ur only human to be feeling guilty or blaming yourself. but u shouldn't, because "it takes two to tango", and ur relationship didn't fail because it was ALL ur fault, maybe u didn't do anything, or maybe he didn't either. it's just a weird cycle of falling in love and falling out of love. no one can ever explain why ex's (dumpers) do the things they do. U just have to stay strong and try not to beat urself up about it, it will only make ur broken heart hurt more. Just try to concentrate more on YOU... and how you can get thru this... I know u can do it. We're all on the same boat as u.
lofi_tokyo Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 Cherish is right. It takes two to tango. I think we all make foolish mistakes in a relationship, but you need to make a mistake to learn from one, so.. try to learn from your relationship. And, the truth is, what you did wrong was most likely not THAT bad, its just your ex was not able to deal with it as a person. In a healthy relationship, mistakes happen, but the couple grows together from the experience, and learns together. If your ex was unable to grow with you, its not solely your fault, it was his/hers as well.
ioncebelieved Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 The other things I beat myself up over were the following: Being too supilcating; being too needy; being too bitchy; giving her more chances to get right; not walking away sooner and never looking back. Otherwise, I really was stellar in my behavior and wonderful to her. Now that I am the road to full recovery, I have what I learned when the right person comes my way. I no longer beat myself up about the above things I mentioned... I did them because I loved a woman that knew she was never going to make the right decision.
Melrapuo Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 I have low self esteem already. I've had it for many years. I beat myself because I don't understand how I have been attracted to three people, and two of them were able to replace me with another guy almost immediately. It makes me feel like, if I'm so easy to be replaced, am I even worth it? I've convinced myself that I am worth it, but its a hard to accept the trend of things that happens to me. Especially when I was willing to do anything for the ex.
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