KellieAnne Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 I was in a relationship with my ex for 4 years that ended a year ago. We have a 3 year old son together, and he is now dating a girl he cheated on my with. For the last year he has been telling me he still has strong feelings for me. Over the last 2 months, we've have taken things to another level, emotionally and physically. We've talked about getting back together a lot, but at the moment he's in a situation where he and his girl have things invested in each other, and he does love her. I don't want him to break up with her for me, I want him to do it for himself as she has treated him horribly. I believe he is sincere in what he says he feels for me. I will always love him and I won't ever love someone like I love him. I know that what im doing is risky, and I could end up hurt again in any predicament with him, and that's why im posting here. What should I do? If I absolutely need to drop him, how can I do it? I've tried so many times. I feel that I need to go with my heart, which is crying for him. I have no control over it at this point and I don't see myself happy without him.
whichwayisup Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 For your son's sake, make that you're only focus and conversations with him. Your ex seems to not be capable of being and staying faithful in a relationship. You can love him, he is the father of your child, and you can care about him - But, it would be better for you to detach emotionally from him and again, ONLY deal with him, see him, when it has to do about your child. If, in the future, they break up and IF you want to give it a try, DO couples counselling and ask him to go on his own as well. This guy has 'cheating' issues, for sure.
sweet&simple Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 So.. he cheated on you with her, and now he's cheating on her with you? Yeah, you need to drop him. Do you really believe that if he left her for you, he'd be satisfied with just you? He's a cake eater, and you're letting him. If the reason he won't leave her is because he LOVES her, what is that telling you about what he feels for YOU? Here's what you do-- break all contact that isn't in regard to your son. I'm assuming he has visitation or something of that sort? If so-- only discuss that. Your son needs his father, but YOU don't need him. Seriously.. you say you can't be happy without him.. but.. when in the last 4 years have you honestly tried? And also, how happy can you really be with someone who loves someone else?
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