survivingcollege Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 So I'm just going to spill my situation since that seems to be the protocol. I've been with my guy for a year as of two weeks ago. (Nice. I know.) We have been doing long distance almost the whole time, except for summer when I come home from college when we are 15 minutes apart (the rest of the year is 2 hours apart, but we both have cars so it hasn't been awful). I feel like I need to describe to you what he is like.. he's only 20 and very ambitious, a film major who does tons of projects on the side, and takes his "career" very seriously even though he's only in third year! it's not that he can't have fun, but he is a huge workaholic and tends to overanalyze/overstress about things in general. I have always been the go-with-the-flow, de-stressing influence on him. Since school started he's been really stressed about work, and school, and the fact that he has taken a part time job (I told you he is ambitious). he called me up two days ago and told me he wanted to break up because he knew that he wasn't treating me fairly by not calling me as much as he should etc, but he couldn't make himself put in the effort even though he knew he should. Basically he knew that I cared so much for him and he felt like he didn't care as much as I did. I should note here that I've been in love with him since about the 4th month and he never once told me he loved me our entire relationship. I could have said it, yes, but I always had the feeling he was holding back and I didn't want to get rejected.. he had gotten out of a bad relationship and I didn't want to scare him off. I regret that now. Anyway.. I know no one can guarantee me this, but I figure I'll ask the question everyone here wants to know: WILL HE COME BACK?!?! Haha. It's been two days and I have been doing NC since the minute I hung up the phone. I keep hoping he'll go a few days without me in his life and realize that he does love me and need me in his life.. but I don't know. We broke up a few months ago and that lasted three days long before he called and wanted me back (same reason, over-analyzing the future). I just want him to be happy with me. I always tried to be understanding of his schedule, I never made him feel guilty about being too busy to call me every night - that was all brought on by his own conscience. During the breakup he kept saying that he needed to be on his own "for awhile".. he said I was the best girlfriend he ever had, that I gave so much, that I was so understanding, and that I made him so happy etc etc.. so why the hell is he doing this then I feel absolutely awful.. I just want him back.. I just want him to call me.. bah I hate being so needy right now!! Help.
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