quankanne Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 oh, hell ... he found your number? Would that constitute stalking?
Kasan Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 He's stepping it up. He know I don't want to talk to him. He called collect 3 times yesterday. I refused to accept the calls. I hear that I can have my number on a list of people he can't call from jail. I'm looking into that. So is there a possibility that he thinks that there is a future with you, based on your writings and phone calls? Would it be possible to talk to him the next time that he calls and tell him what you are telling us?
porter218 Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 How in the world do you get a prison pen pal in the first place:confused:???
Author All Star Posted October 3, 2008 Author Posted October 3, 2008 How far away is his prison? If he will be on parole there are limitations to how far he can travel, and if he does travel to see you it's a violation that can put him right back in prison. Has he seen a pic of you? If not, you could send a pic of the fattest ugliest woman to him. However 13 years without a woman might not stop him from caring about looks. I believe he just can't leave the state. I live in the state where he is locked up. I should write and tell him that I'm really a man and I just wanted to let him know before we met. I think that is a great idea. I could say I'm pre-op trans-gender. You know, really a man, but I intend to have the operation when I get the money. And then send hima picture of an ugly man.
Author All Star Posted October 3, 2008 Author Posted October 3, 2008 How in the world do you get a prison pen pal in the first place:confused:??? there are hundreds of website where they can ask for friends and people to write them.
Author All Star Posted October 3, 2008 Author Posted October 3, 2008 So is there a possibility that he thinks that there is a future with you, based on your writings and phone calls? Would it be possible to talk to him the next time that he calls and tell him what you are telling us? It's totally bizarre for him to think this based on anything that I have ever said to him. That's whow I know he's not wrapped too tight. He already told me not to tell him I don't want to see him when he gets out. I think he added that in his letter b/c his rational mind knows damn well I don't want see him.
porter218 Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 I've called around and I agree that there are no grounds for a restraining order. I own my condo. I can't move. I can't use the line together for ever to get a restraining order b/c one can't tell what i've said to him in the past. Nothing to indicate that I wanted to meet or be with him ever. He's stepping it up. He know I don't want to talk to him. He called collect 3 times yesterday. I refused to accept the calls. I hear that I can have my number on a list of people he can't call from jail. I'm looking into that. Whatever company that jail uses for the collect calls can put a block on your phone if you ask them to. This block will prevent direct calls from any facility they do business with but if he has any friends on the outside he can 3way call you.
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 I believe he just can't leave the state. I live in the state where he is locked up. I should write and tell him that I'm really a man and I just wanted to let him know before we met. I think that is a great idea. I could say I'm pre-op trans-gender. You know, really a man, but I intend to have the operation when I get the money. And then send hima picture of an ugly man. Don't you dare do that.. he could very well have an issue with that and hunt you down to commit an act of hate crime.. you don't know how he feels about that sort of thing.. You need to set him straight.. perfectly straight.. tell him either in a letter or on the phone that you have no intention of seeing him in person. Then call his warden and tell him the issue you are having.. he will no doubt at the very least help with explaining to him the miscommunication even if it thru the counseling he might receive in prison in order to learn how to fit back into society. Please take a hard line stance at this point.. don't ignore him.. you must set him straight about meeting in person.
Author All Star Posted October 3, 2008 Author Posted October 3, 2008 oh, hell ... he found your number? Would that constitute stalking? No, I gave him my number back when I thought he was in there for good. I would let him call me collect on sundays.
whichwayisup Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 I believe he just can't leave the state. I live in the state where he is locked up. I should write and tell him that I'm really a man and I just wanted to let him know before we met. I think that is a great idea. I could say I'm pre-op trans-gender. You know, really a man, but I intend to have the operation when I get the money. And then send hima picture of an ugly man. Don't do that. You know what this guy is capable of and if he finds out you lied to him, he could come after you. DO NOT give him that reason. Playing games and telling him you're really a man is dangerous.
Kasan Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 It's totally bizarre for him to think this based on anything that I have ever said to him. That's whow I know he's not wrapped too tight. He already told me not to tell him I don't want to see him when he gets out. I think he added that in his letter b/c his rational mind knows damn well I don't want see him. Is there anyway you could go away for a couple of weeks? Do you have any vacation time? If not, could you have a friend stay with you?
Author All Star Posted October 3, 2008 Author Posted October 3, 2008 Change your number immediately. The good news is that he can't get in my building and he does not know what I look like. I may consider changing my number. I gage what he's feeling by how often he's attempting to call me. I will have no way of knowing how angry he's getting if I change my number. I want to know if after I send him the letter, he's going to be able to just get the message and stop calling. I won't know if I change the number.
marlena Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 I would move and move pronto. Just drop off the face of the Earth. He sounds psycho. I would not take a chance, not one. I would also dye my hair a new colour, cut it and style it differently,wear glasses,change my appearance as much as possible...oh, and get an unlisted number. I am serious.
Angel1111 Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 The good news is that he can't get in my building and he does not know what I look like. I may consider changing my number. I gage what he's feeling by how often he's attempting to call me. I will have no way of knowing how angry he's getting if I change my number. I want to know if after I send him the letter, he's going to be able to just get the message and stop calling. I won't know if I change the number. I agree that first you need to be honest with him and let him know what's going on instead of avoiding him the way you are. This will only make him madder. After you do that, change your phone number. You need to cut off all contact with this guy but you need to explain it to him first. After that, end all communication with him. And, as a sidenote, I hope you never do anything like this again. Think before you ever put yourself in this kind of jeapordy again and stop believing everything people tell you - especially people in prison. Good God!
Lucky_One Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 The good news is that he can't get in my building and he does not know what I look like. I may consider changing my number. I gage what he's feeling by how often he's attempting to call me. I will have no way of knowing how angry he's getting if I change my number. I want to know if after I send him the letter, he's going to be able to just get the message and stop calling. I won't know if I change the number. And you are going to stay in your building the rest of your life? you obviously aren't good at hiding yourself and you give out far too many details of your life. He's a criminal - he will find out what you look like. Refusing to change your number bc you want to see how many times he calls you smacks of 1) getting a rush off the drama and 2) an inability to make smart decisions about your own safety. Simply drop off the face of the earth to him. No calls, no letters, no contact of any sort. Send his letters back unopened, marked "Addressee moved, no forwarding address".
Author All Star Posted October 3, 2008 Author Posted October 3, 2008 and you are going to stay in your building the rest of your life? As someone on ls threatened me just last week, it is easy to find out who someone is; you obviously aren't good at hiding yourself and you give out far too many details of your life. He's a criminal - he will find out what you look like. Refusing to change your number bc you want to see how many times he calls you smacks of 1) getting a rush off the drama and 2) an inability to make smart decisions about your own safety. Simply drop off the face of the earth to him. No calls, no letters, no contact of any sort. Send his letters back unopened, marked "addressee moved, no forwarding address". what a dumb thing to say.
Author All Star Posted October 3, 2008 Author Posted October 3, 2008 Someone on LS threatened you? Who me? No this guy is not from LS. He's from jail.
Lishy Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 I really think you should speak to the prison he is in and I still think you should tell him you have moved and if he comes knocking on your door say in a very squeaky voice "yo no hablo inglés señor y tengo un perro grande que comerá usted si usted no sale en este momento" (I do not speak English sir and if you do not leave I have 2 dogs who will eat you) That may work?
Moose Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 I've called around and I agree that there are no grounds for a restraining order. I own my condo. I can't move. I can't use the line together for ever to get a restraining order b/c one can't tell what i've said to him in the past. Nothing to indicate that I wanted to meet or be with him ever. He's stepping it up. He know I don't want to talk to him. He called collect 3 times yesterday. I refused to accept the calls. I hear that I can have my number on a list of people he can't call from jail. I'm looking into that.Yeah, I did too...just to make sure I wasn't blowing smoke....and...no problem in my town... Guess it depends on where you live and who you know.... Another suggestion that was given to me is to post, "No Trespassing" and, "Property Property under Video Surveillance" signs near or in your condo. That is, if you don't have any already....
thewomantoblame Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 What if he's not on Parole? Some prisoners choose to serve their full sentence so they don't have to deal with the hassle of a parole officer and all the restrictions. If he's getting out on good behavior that would seem to indicate that he isn't serving his full sentence and will be on parole.
Author All Star Posted October 3, 2008 Author Posted October 3, 2008 There are no trespassing signs posted at building. He is not serving his full sentence and will be on parole.
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