veh Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 Hi everyone, Let me thank you for reading my thread. Some background information. I broke up with my ex 2 months plus ago. The reason for break up is she don't think she love me enough to continue in this relationship. I had beg and plead the moment we broke up. But in the end, she insisted. The first month after the breakup, i maintain light contact, msn her a few times and call her once a while. But i realized she was giving me a cold shoulder. So i decided i should not be a doormat anymore. From then, i deleted her from my facebook account and totally don't contact her. Just recently, she msn me, asking me why I deleted her from my facebook. I answered her that I may had accidentally deleted her. I do not know whether she believe it or not, but I am not bothered much about it. Then after a few days, she called me during midnight. I answered her call, but i told her I'm out, and hang up. When I'm home, i leave her a msg saying that she can call me now. I went bath straight afterward. After my bath, I had recieved a msg and one missed call from her. I did not reply or call back. But after a moment later, she called again, and we chat for around 1hr or less. Now the problem is that I still love her, and i want her back. But i know i cannot show to her that i am needy. But i believe i need to do something or drop some hint to let her know i still consider about getting back with her. What should i do?
Author veh Posted October 2, 2008 Author Posted October 2, 2008 Hi everyone, Let me thank you for reading my thread. Some background information. I broke up with my ex 2 months plus ago. The reason for break up is she don't think she love me enough to continue in this relationship. I had beg and plead the moment we broke up. But in the end, she insisted. The first month after the breakup, i maintain light contact, msn her a few times and call her once a while. But i realized she was giving me a cold shoulder. So i decided i should not be a doormat anymore. From then, i deleted her from my facebook account and totally don't contact her. Just recently, she msn me, asking me why I deleted her from my facebook. I answered her that I may had accidentally deleted her. I do not know whether she believe it or not, but I am not bothered much about it. Then after a few days, she called me during midnight. I answered her call, but i told her I'm out, and hang up. When I'm home, i leave her a msg saying that she can call me now. I went bath straight afterward. After my bath, I had recieved a msg and one missed call from her. I did not reply or call back. But after a moment later, she called again, and we chat for around 1hr or less. Now the problem is that I still love her, and i want her back. But i know i cannot show to her that i am needy. But i believe i need to do something or drop some hint to let her know i still consider about getting back with her. What should i do?
You'reasian Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 Approach her wanting to be friends and start with a clean slate. Stick to this plan and get re-accquainted.
Geishawhelk Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 So...... if she wanted to break up, why does she keep calling you all the time? You need to be upfront with her and ask her what the state of play is. Does she want to try again, yes or no? If yes, ok let's meet, chat, hang out, start slowly, as You'reasian says. If no, then - "sorry, but quit calling me. I'm trying to get on with my life, and if you can't then that's your problem....." Then close off all contact.
BCCA Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 does she want you back though? Yeah, thats the real question.
me007 Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 Approach her wanting to be friends and start with a clean slate. Stick to this plan and get re-accquainted. Is it a good idea to get friendzoned? Maybe good to get re-acquainted for a few weeks and then ask, but don't get yourself stuck in the endless friendzone cycle!
Author veh Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 Thanks for the replies. She called me again a few days later. Then i told her this "if the reason for you to contact me after so long is just to be friend with me, i rather you don't call me. But if you want to be back together, I will be more than happy about it." She didn't give me her answer, so I asked her to think about it and hang up. I know she going thru a pretty bad time now, work, studies and health(she has not been feeling well lately). But I really don't think if I continue to be a doormat for her, she will come back to me. Now guess all I can do now, is wait and move on.
billabong89 Posted October 5, 2008 Posted October 5, 2008 Its a tricky situation because you don;t want to be friend zoned and at the same time you don;t want her to start thinking your an @ss. The best bet is to keep your distance but still somewhat be there for her. You want her to know that you still care for her and also need her to know you don;t want to just be her friend.
Author veh Posted October 5, 2008 Author Posted October 5, 2008 She just msg me today. Saying that since I cant be friend with her, she shall respect my decision and thus wont contact me for the moment. I wonder what should I do now...
Author veh Posted October 12, 2008 Author Posted October 12, 2008 I just have a good long talk with her last night. Yesh, she admit that she now just think of me as a friend, and she do not want back the relationship. I wonder why, our common friends told me that she was asking them about me recently. Her sister(I kept contact with her sister) told me that she(my ex) was asking her about me too. And when her sister ask my ex, whether will she consider getting back together with me, my ex answer was that she don't know. But now, she rejected me straight and firm.
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