jjjustplaying Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 i just broke up with my girlfriend. we were in a long distance relationship since im at college. Friends from back home said she has been talking to a guy already. If I could have her back i wouldnt want to cause or trust is gone... But that doesnt make me stop missing her. I havent called or texted her since the breakup, and she hasnt said anything either except right after it happened. i know i want her to call or something. but i dont know why. please tell me this isnt just hard for me and she hasnt forgotten already...
CherishG Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 may I ask who initiated the break-up? and what ur feeling is totally normal. its been one month for me (the dumpee) and I'm still constantly looking at my phone/email.
rod_in_gtown Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 I think this is perfectly normal, I did that too and what I ended up concluding is that we want to be reassured that we meant something to the other person, we want to be fought for, not taken for granted. almost like the end of one of those romance comedies where the other person realizes how stupid they were and came back for "true love". I'm pretty sure she's feeling the same thing as you are. but you can't call her. just as you would not get back together with her if she called, she's probably thinking the same about you.
Simplycaroline Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 i just broke up with my girlfriend. we were in a long distance relationship since im at college. Friends from back home said she has been talking to a guy already. If I could have her back i wouldnt want to cause or trust is gone... But that doesnt make me stop missing her. I havent called or texted her since the breakup, and she hasnt said anything either except right after it happened. i know i want her to call or something. but i dont know why. please tell me this isnt just hard for me and she hasnt forgotten already... No one wants to feel that they are forgotten. I understand I and respect that. But YOU broke up with HER. She has broken no confidence, vow or promise to you even if it is true that she is seeing someone else. There is not trust issue on your part what so ever. You do not really in any rational sense have a right to any expectations of her sense you are not together. People deal with their breakups the way that they deal with it and for some it is spending time with and making new friends. I doubt that she has forgotten you though.
Author jjjustplaying Posted October 2, 2008 Author Posted October 2, 2008 may I ask who initiated the break-up? i broke it off.. but it wasnt cause i wanted too.. more like cause i could see that it was going to happen and i thought she wanted it to happen.
Author jjjustplaying Posted October 2, 2008 Author Posted October 2, 2008 thanks guys. I think your right about not wanting to be forgot about so fast. that would kill me cause she meant so much to me. but the hardest part is trying to convince my self that since i wouldnt want to get back together, its a waste of time thinking about it and stuff. cause a part of me is still attatched.. i guess thats how it is though.
Konfuzion Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 Them calling wouldn't make it better even though you think it would. My ex keeps calling me and e-mailing me and she is the one that left. I guess it just bothers me that she is trying to use me for support or something, and then she says crap like "I miss you, but I know this is right". Anyway I have been strict at staying NC and I think she is finally getting the hint.
Author jjjustplaying Posted October 2, 2008 Author Posted October 2, 2008 if she calls should i pick up? i know im gonna want to.
SRV Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 If she calls you just pick up the phone, but do not sound desperate. Keep the conversation casual, do not talk about the relationship and do not come off as too needy.
Author jjjustplaying Posted October 4, 2008 Author Posted October 4, 2008 she just texted me today cause she got a letter i sent to her on out annaversiry before our break up. first time weve said a word since the break... i dont know if i should answer or not. but i dont think i want to
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