audrey_1 Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 We've all repeatedly heard things like this over and over. -- People who play games are bad -- Don't put up with someone who plays games -- Playing games is a power struggle -- People who play games don't respect you -- People who play games have trust/commitment issues ...and so on. But what does "playing games" actually mean, and what's a situation in which you thought someone was "playing a game" with you?
Geishawhelk Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 When people repeatedly put the phone down on you, that's playing games. Another term might be 'messing with someone's head'..... When you have issues the other person, and it interferes with your lives, but they won't discuss it..... When a person manifests a behaviour pattern they know you don't like, but they do it anyway, because that's just who they are, so get over it..... When they make demands upon you that initially may seem endering, but after a while become intrusive..... Some of these I've had, some I'm experiencing.... But not enough to make me want to buy arsenic.....
Ronni_W Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 what's a situation in which you thought someone was "playing a game" with you? 1. Didn't call when he said he was going to; Lots of last-minute cancellations 2. Too-often managed to screw-up something he was doing "for me" (whether I'd asked or he'd just decided to "be nice".) Passive-aggressive. Labeling/name-calling, 'scapegoating'/blaming, attempts to manipulate ~~ to me, those are also indicative of games being played. Not straight-up, open and honest; always under the guise of something else; purposefully misleading.
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