Stalking or interest?

[wolves999]

Okay so this is my first post here, which is a little embarrassing, but this whole situation is driving me crazy and I feel like I need help.

 

Anyway, to make a long story short it's about a girl. I had her in one of my classes first semester last year and she forgot her books a couple times to try to talk, but being shy as I am, it didn't go anywhere.

 

Now I have another class with her this year and on the very first day we played the classic "name game" and she sat next to me but the name game never got to us to we didn't actually have to talk to each other. This whole thing is stupid, but anyway, now pretty much throughout class she is flicking her hair, putting lipstick on, and looking at me during class. Even around campus we will constantly make eye contact, but we don't talk and quite frankly I don't know what to think of it because it's not a sustained stare; more of a oh crap he saw me stare.

 

Is she waiting on me to make a move after almost two years? What the heck do I say if I were to talk to her considering that both of us know what is going on? Or does she just think I'm stalking her or something? (that goes vice versa since we constantly see each other around campus). I'm just trying to figure it out because I am generally a shy guy who does work instead of going out all the time while she is a big time partier. So she obviously is not shy, so it doesn't make sense why she would be shy in making the first move. I know guys are traditionally supposed to do this, but whose fault is it if no one makes the move? Everyone says....oh he doesn't want it bad enough, but in this case couldn't it be said that she doesn't want it bad enough too?

 

So anyway, what I'm trying to say is, would it scare her if I just all of a sudden talked to her because she thinks I'm weird for not talking to her (it has been two years after all) or does it seem like she is just waiting? And how do I begin to talk to her when it seems so obvious that she wants to talk in the first place?

 

Okay so thats my story, as embarrassing as it is. I'm a very logical person and this all seems illogical so this whole thing seems ridiculous, but I really would appreciate any help with this situation. Thanks.

[Stockalone]

Nothing stalkerish about it, as far as I am concerned. And I don't think that she perceives you to be a stalker. I think she is as curious as you are and I don't believe she would mind if you approached her.

 

The easy solution would be that when you see her the next time, you make eye contact, smile at her and walk towards her. If she maintains the eye contact and slows down or stops, you introduce yourself.

 

If you are not comfortable with that, maybe a good opportunity would be a situation where you are waiting "together". Maybe if you run across her at the cafeteria or outside a university office where you "happen" to stand in line behind her.

 

You could say: Hi, I am wolves. It seems that we keep crossing paths for two years now. I think an introduction is long overdue.

 

That is probably what I would be doing. However, I am also shy around "new" people I don't know. So you should keep that in mind. There are probably better ways to handle this.

 

As for why she doesn't start a conversation. Obviously, she could start a conversation, but as a guy, I don't think that you should expect a woman to make the first move. There are women who have no problem making the first move, but I believe that a lot of women simply won't do that.

 

And let's face it. If you are a guy and do not even talk to a girl, you will get nowhere. Given that this is going on for nearly two years, would you not rather know where you stand instead of doing nothing and keep this game of hide-and-seek going for another two years until you both finish college and never know her name?

 

Besides, most (probably all) women want a man who at least has the guts to approach them and talk to them. Maybe she isn't interested, but unless you talk to her you won't find out.