Am I Over Him or Not???

[SnowWhite924]

I don't miss him, I don't want him, I don't want to see him, I don't feel in love with him, I don't think I even love him. I don't care if I talk to him or not.

 

So, why do I still think about him??? When I do think about him, I seem to be angry. I call him names (in my thoughts) and still log onto my email to see if he texts me. He does texts me and sometimes I respond, sometimes I don't. I was doing the NC thing but then we spoke and now we're 'just friends' whatever that means. I don't want bad vibes between us so I left it at that.

 

Am I over him or not? When will I stop thinking about him?

 

I'm in such a better place now than I've ever been since I met him over 14 months ago. I'm happy, happily married, and everything feels great.

 

What's up with the continued thoughts of him? I don't even care!

 

Help.

[jj33]

I was just thinking the same thing. Its over etc but he is still on my mind. And not just in the work sense. I speak to him about work and sometimes afterwards I still get a pang. And we arent even discussing anything personal.

 

I dont know. I have decided its just one of those tihngs that perhaps just doesnt go away? I dont know. I wish it would. I wish I could just talk to him and never feel a thing. I think that just takes time.

[whichwayisup]

You probably miss the ego rush and the dramatic part of your affair - Hense looking in your email, hoping there's a message from him...

 

I would chalk it up as ego based and let it go. Don't read into it, this is a bad habit that's hard to get out of your blood.

[DealingWDrama]

When relationships end we go through the same exact steps we go through when someone dies...it's the grieving process. Shock, denial, depression, anger, and acceptance...not always in that order and not always one at a time - they can all occur at different times or at the same time. You'll make it!