crushed66 Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 FACTS. - she is dating someone else (probably 1-2 months). they were friends/ acquaintances for a few yrs. -im in my early 30's. she is in her late 20's. -we never talked about marriage. i believe she doesnt want to marry. - i asked her what does she what over the phone, she'll say "i dont know" (like 1 month ago) -i heard from her friend that my ex explained to her that we broke up. QUESTION. should i get an explaintion in person? its been over 3 weeks since we broke up. she im'ed me once. asking what i was up do. i ended w/ maybe we should talk sometimes. i im her a few days later (just small talk for like 10-15 im lines) why does she not wanna explain to me in person? she doesnt wanna make me feel bad. or she doesnt wanna feel bad herself. would NC be more effective if she never broke up w/ me face to face? or i need a face to face break up (so she can feel bad). as of now im gonna do the straight disappear NC (she doesnt know that im gonna do that). so, which works better, a face to face break up then NC or staight disappear NC? thanks.
tinke Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 Unsure of what you are asking about the NC. It really has little to do with her, it is a method for YOU to heal and move on. Quite simply, she did a cowardly act! She may be keeping things as is in case the new R. doen't work, then she may feel that since she never really broke up, she can return again...who knows. Do you want someone who can easily discard you with so little feeling? If at all posible, try not to think what is going on in her head, stuff like this will drive you crazy with no solid answers.
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