JackJack Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 This is something that took place over the weekend. My wife and I have some neighbors that are friends of ours. We have gone out with them a few times, and I have gone fishing and to play golf with him a time or two. My wife has done lunch with her and gone to get pedicures with her etc before. He is the type of guy that is a big BS'er. He does like to brag etc. Don't get me wrong I like the guy, he would be there for you in a minute if you needed him, I just figured his bragging is or BSing has to do with his insecurity maybe, so I usually overlook it, although there are times its nerve wracking. My wife and I were out side the other day doing some stuff to our yard, and he was outside too. He came over and we all chit chatted for a bit about this and that. His wife was not home at the time. I don't remember how the subject got brought up, but he mentioned something about him and another buddy of his going to a strip club, this was in the middle of week, not a weekend, because he was off of work that day. I remember asking him how often he goes to strip clubs and he said not that often but has been a few times with buddies. He did make sure he throew in the fact his wife knew and she didn't seem to have a problem with it. He then said there are times he feels guilty about getting lap dances. It would seem to me if his wife really knew he wouldn't feel guilty, but thats just me. In a joking manner he asked my wife if she would mind if I went with him sometime. I didn't give her a chance to answer, because I told him, thanks, but my wife and my relationship is fine and so I really don't need or want to go watch another woman strip. He kind of just laughed and said he understood. To me, it seemed he was real quick to mention how his wife knew about him going there. It could be he did that thinking if he told us she knew then it would be less likely of a chance of me or my wife asking her if she knew, which we wouldn't do anyway. Now, she very well may know and be ok with it. I did say too, he was a BS'er, however I don't think he is about that. He has mentioned going to them before when I was with him on a fishing trip. So a few days pass, and last night we were over at their house visiting,(her husband wasn't in the house at the time) and his wife begins to tell me wife some things about a friend she works with, and how her friends husband goes to strip joints etc. My wife (not thinking) spoke up and said, "Yeah well some women aren't as understanding about their husbands going to places like that as you are." I was sitting across from my wife, you could see all color go from her face. You could tell she didn't mean to say that and it slipped out. The other woman had a weird look on her face, and she asked "What do you mean? To my knowledge my husband doesn't go to those places." I then spoke up and said, "I think what she was meaning was, if your husband ever did go to those places you probably wouldn't mind." I honestly felt my face become red and it get hotter in there. I felt like I was digging a deeper hole. I didn't know what to do or say. It was rather tense and embarrassing. She then says, "Oh but I would mind." it was at that time her husband walked in from outside. She did not mention anything to him while we were there. Its possible she didn't mention anythign to him at all, I'm not sure. After my wife and I got home, she felt so bad. I told her what was done was done, and not to worry about it there was nothing we could do now. I know she didn't mean for it to come out. My wife is not one to run and tell things anyway. I felt bad for her, and I keep thinking he is going to come over and ask us about it and if we said anything to his wife, but according to him, she knows. I just think if one was happy in their marrriage (he always claims they are) then he wouldn't need/want to visit the strip clubs and he sure wouldn't feel guilty if she knew right? Even if he did feel guilty it sure doesn't stop him from returning at times. Sorry this got long.
a4a Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 This is hilarious! (since I am not directly involved) somebody is going to get in trouble nah nee nah nee neu neu....... It's Tater Time at the neighbors!
Trialbyfire Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Oopsie... Why do people blatantly lie like this? It serves no purpose at all.
Author JackJack Posted October 1, 2008 Author Posted October 1, 2008 This is hilarious! (since I am not directly involved) somebody is going to get in trouble nah nee nah nee neu neu....... It's Tater Time at the neighbors! Yeah...and we live beside of them. Kind of weird situation anyway. She is very materlistic and has a way of making her husband feel bad if SHE doesn't get what she wants. He BS's perople to get what he wants or make people think they are something they are not etc. Maybe they were meant for each other.
tanbark813 Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 That would be funny if the wife in the story was Jersey Shortie in real life.
Author JackJack Posted October 1, 2008 Author Posted October 1, 2008 That would be funny if the wife in the story was Jersey Shortie in real life. No we don't even live in Jersey, and I think that's where she lives.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 He did make sure he throew in the fact his wife knew and she didn't seem to have a problem with it. He then said there are times he feels guilty about getting lap dances. Apparently he is not only a braggart and a BS'er but a liar as well. I didn't give her a chance to answer, because I told him, thanks, but my wife and my relationship is fine and so I really don't need or want to go watch another woman strip. He kind of just laughed and said he understood. Good man, lucky woman. Your wife shouldn't be made to feel guilty by his actions. He brought that on, not her. I really can't believe he would be bragging about strip clubs infront of YOUR wife. I don't imagine he is the type of person who has a realistic view of peoples opinions of him, or cares to.
Trialbyfire Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 I wonder if this is a similar attitude of OWs/OMs where the betrayed spouse knows about the affair. In adjusting reality, you can continue being involved with less guilt, to an extent.
Ronni_W Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 That is soo effed-up (in a 'synchronistic' way)...that his wife would talk about strip joints within days of him piling up his BS about them. It's the guy's own Karma was doing it all, if you ask me. You handled it well, under the circumstances, and your wife has nothing to feel "bad" about...she has no power/control over his Karmic Krap .
Author JackJack Posted October 1, 2008 Author Posted October 1, 2008 He did make sure he throew in the fact his wife knew and she didn't seem to have a problem with it. He then said there are times he feels guilty about getting lap dances. Apparently he is not only a braggart and a BS'er but a liar as well. I didn't give her a chance to answer, because I told him, thanks, but my wife and my relationship is fine and so I really don't need or want to go watch another woman strip. He kind of just laughed and said he understood. Good man, lucky woman. Your wife shouldn't be made to feel guilty by his actions. He brought that on, not her. I really can't believe he would be bragging about strip clubs infront of YOUR wife. I don't imagine he is the type of person who has a realistic view of peoples opinions of him, or cares to. You're right she shouldn't feel bad, but she does. She called earlier and wanted to know if I had heard anything from either of the neighbors, specially him, since I'm working from home today. I told her no, not a word.
JamesM Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 That would be funny if the wife in the story was Jersey Shortie in real life. After the other thread...it would be. And if it was in Vegas...even better. This struck me quite funny. And this whole story was funny. But if it was me...hoooooeeee. I feel for your neighbor, but why say your wife knew? Which would be better to say she knew or say..."keep it a secret cuz I haven't told my wife yet." Or why even bring it up? Either way, by telling you guys, he has not right to complain if you said anything. Fact is....if he said his wife knew, then it is as if he is saying that it is okay to tell his wife. Great story.
Author JackJack Posted October 1, 2008 Author Posted October 1, 2008 After the other thread...it would be. And if it was in Vegas...even better. This struck me quite funny. And this whole story was funny. But if it was me...hoooooeeee. I feel for your neighbor, but why say your wife knew? Which would be better to say she knew or say..."keep it a secret cuz I haven't told my wife yet." Or why even bring it up? Either way, by telling you guys, he has not right to complain if you said anything. Fact is....if he said his wife knew, then it is as if he is saying that it is okay to tell his wife. Great story. Personally, I think its sad rather than funny. You're right, "Why bring it up?" I have no clue, other than he wanted to brag. I don't find being deceitful to your wife anything to brag about. I do think he told us that his wife knew, thinking we would be less likely to say anything to her if we thought she already knew. Where as if he told us it was a secret he might think would be more likely to go tattle. I really don't know.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 And this whole story was funny. But if it was me...hoooooeeee. I feel for your neighbor, but why say your wife knew? Which would be better to say she knew or say..."keep it a secret cuz I haven't told my wife yet." Or why even bring it up? I thought about this, and initially I would agree with JJ that he figured it would be less likely to be brought up by either of you. After thinking about it and posting, I believe it was probably an attempt at manipulation toward JJ's wife when he asked if she would be comfortable with him tagging along sometime.
blair08 Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 You said he likes to brag and is a bullsh*tter, so maybe he wasn't even thinking about what he was saying or what the reprecussions might would be when he told you. Maybe he was so caught up in bragging about it. He sounds lonely to me in that he doesn't have many friends and tries to do whatever he can to get friends by bragging or throwing them a line to make it sound impressive. There are some people. who think they can't just be themselves, instead they have to live a lie making others think their life is just wonderful in order to want people to be around them. His wife makes him feel bad for not getting what she wants? He goes off to strip clubs, lies about it, brags, and BS's people, sounds like a match made in heaven.
PandorasBox Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Jack, I'm sure your wife didn't mean to let the cat out of the bag, but maybe its good she did. Maybe his wife needed a wake up call on how things are really going in her marriage if he feels the need to go the strip clubs with his friends and get lap dances. You're right too, though, she very well could know and just not care, as long as she is getting her way and what she wants. Honestly, they both sounds pretty selfish. JMO.
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