Keslove Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Things with my SO have been rocky over last few months. She is older and more experienced than I am both in life and dating. She has told me that I am the love of her life (I am the one) and that she knew instantly from meeting me that their was something special about me. She made the first move on me. I am in my early 20's. This is my first true long-term serious relationship. I cannot confidently say she is the love of my life (she is the one). I just recently moved out of my parents place and am still trying to find myself and get adjusted to being on my own. Job isn't the greatest. I also want to go back to school in the near future. So in a sense I also feel overwhelmed at times trying to balance a relationship on top of everything else. Maybe I'm not being fair to me or her? Things can be great between us and I love her, but then I will sometimes have restless nights and feel very confused about what I want in my near future (kids, marriage, etc). I'll picture myself settling down with her and having kids, and then the next time I think about I get very scared about the idea because I haven't fully figured myself out yet (how can I think about marriage and kids at this point?). Heard statements from guys/people saying "don't get married in your 20's". Take the time to live, learn and grow. I don't know....so confused.... She said she would wait for me until I was ready.
Geishawhelk Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Could I ask, how much older than you is she, please?
Author Keslove Posted October 1, 2008 Author Posted October 1, 2008 Could I ask, how much older than you is she, please? 7 years older
Trialbyfire Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Things with my SO have been rocky over last few months. She is older and more experienced than I am both in life and dating. She has told me that I am the love of her life (I am the one) and that she knew instantly from meeting me that their was something special about me. She made the first move on me. I am in my early 20's. This is my first true long-term serious relationship. I cannot confidently say she is the love of my life (she is the one). I just recently moved out of my parents place and am still trying to find myself and get adjusted to being on my own. Job isn't the greatest. I also want to go back to school in the near future. So in a sense I also feel overwhelmed at times trying to balance a relationship on top of everything else. Maybe I'm not being fair to me or her? Things can be great between us and I love her, but then I will sometimes have restless nights and feel very confused about what I want in my near future (kids, marriage, etc). I'll picture myself settling down with her and having kids, and then the next time I think about I get very scared about the idea because I haven't fully figured myself out yet (how can I think about marriage and kids at this point?). Heard statements from guys/people saying "don't get married in your 20's". Take the time to live, learn and grow. I don't know....so confused.... She said she would wait for me until I was ready. If you've clearly expressed your concerns to her and she's still willing to wait until you're ready, then it's her call as to what's fair or not. If you've left her with a different impression than what you've expressed on LS, no you're not being fair.
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