AngelinaS Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Hi, I am from India. My boy friend went to US on a project work. He didn't reply to my message before he was leaving. After which the cell phone was given to a colleague of mine (We all work together) and he called up and said that he was busy and cudn't answer. After going to USA, he didn't call/ IM/ text for some 3 days. Later on, he communicated with me for a minute and then he was the project. He usually sleeps around 2 AM works late etc. But this time he wouldn't come online and would tell me that he is tired and asleep. He is back to India. He called me on the first day of his return and we met in the office for 30 min. BTW, he brought 3 t-shirts out of which he asked me to choose 2. He also brought the same for many in our office (Including girls). He yells at me for some project deadlines on the same day and I wudn't have felt bad, had he done the same thing to others. But he doens't say a word to one girl and she comes and tells me that "he never says anything to her". It's just bothering me alot. This girl in question has made some comments about me and I came to know of it thru a colleague. He fired that colleague. But he doesn't say a word to this girl. Also we recently moved to a new office and this girl told about it to every1 else and told them 'they do not necessarily need to tell us about it". So we were not told and not part of he moving in ceremony. Also before shifting to the office they were doing some decorations in the office. My supposedly BF didn't answer my SMS if i needed to come. He also askd another girl who was supposed to come not to come and only she was there that day along with a couple of other people. When I questioned about it, he says I am being selfishs and jealous etc. Please help. I am not able to interpret his behavior.
imagine Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 No he doesn't. You are an option. No one deserves that kind of treatment.
Author AngelinaS Posted October 1, 2008 Author Posted October 1, 2008 No he doesn't. You are an option. No one deserves that kind of treatment. I believe you are right. But knowing that the person does not love you, why does it hurt so much to give up on him? I have been working with him since 6 years and about 2 years ago he promised marriage to me. The sad part is nobody in the office, family or friends know about this. He keeps it a secret.
imagine Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Hugs. Now you must start looking after YOU! Be brave and beautiful.
Author AngelinaS Posted October 2, 2008 Author Posted October 2, 2008 Thanks Imagine. Do guys treat this way? He says he is under lot of pressures (Financial pressures he does have). But when he could spend some time with others, he cud have spent with me too right? Also not being invited to the company ceremony which he has performed...isn't it wrong(He owns the company btw)? He says I am just being jealous and suspicious. Am I? When I try to discuss any of these, it becomes a major fight and he makes me feel guilty. I have quarrled with him over a small issue yesterday that his supporting of that girl in question and yelling at me in front of others is wrong(It's work related. But I might have been late in my deliverables. But so does that lady. He never says a word to her). He says I am just being jealous and there is a problem with my attitude and that I have a problem trusting people, that i don't have confidence and that I am just torturing him. Am I? Please help. I am just confused and feeling guilty that I might be spoiling the entire thing. He didn't call me since 2 days though he knows that a family member of mine is in hospital. Am I wrong here? How do I handle him at work from 2morrow? I took 2 days leave but I have to go to work tomorrow. Please help.
Flowerpower7 Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 Play hard to get. Look it up on the internet, how to do this. If he really wants you, he will come around.
thewomantoblame Posted October 3, 2008 Posted October 3, 2008 You deserve to be treated better than that. If he cared about you in the manner which you should be cared for, he would show it and you wouldn't have these lingering doubts. The secrecy issue would be a big deal for me, too. When you're in love with somebody you want everybody to know.
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