Katherineos123 Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Ok, so my ex and I broke up about 3 months ago, and I took it really hard... Actually, scratch that, I AM taking it really hard. For the first month of our break, we remained no contact, then we tried hanging out with mutual friends and talking every once in a while for a little bit, but it was really awkward and hard on both of us. Then, one night, I made a HUGE mistake. You see, I had been planning on moving to another city for quite some time, and on the night before I moved, a big bunch of us went out to the local bar, the ex included. After a little too much fun, and a few too many drinks, we all went home. Then I went online.... duh, duh, DUUUUH! So I started talking to him on instant messanger, and one thing lead to another and I decided to tell him that I missed him, a lot. MAN! I wish I could take that back! Anyway, he told me that he thinks that enough time hasnt passed for us to work out the issues we were having and that he said it wasnt time for us to try again, yet. I reluctantly agreed. Then, I moved. September 1st. Havent heard from, or seen him since that fateful night. BUT, he had called my roomate a week or so ago to see how everything was going (they arre good friends too) and he asked her what I was up to that night.... and I was actually out on a date. so she told him, and he acted kind of weirded out and jealous to hear about it. Anyway, then tonight rolls around, and the guy I have been casually seeing came over, I made some reference to hanging out with him tonight on my facebook status, and what do you know?! The ex calls in the middle of the date! We havent spoken in a month straight, and my heart jumped out of my chest when I saw he was calling me, but I didnt answer. Its ironic, just this afternoon, I was thinking to myself about how I finally feel as if Im begining to move on, and that he obviously doesnt still think about me, or have feelings for me anymore, that everyday I feel a little stronger than the day before... and BAM! There he is! Did he see my facebook and try to ruin my date? Is he having regrets? He knows I want him back, I just wish I knew his intentions.
Crazy.S Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 coincidence maybe? lol i dont think so. your ex is jealous and he probably didnt expect you to be moving on so fast. but then again girls can get dates much easier than guys can. maybe there's a chance to get back together.
Karma101 Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 It's just like everyone says... When you finally decide to let go and move on with your life and be happy, they come sniffing around again. It's happened to me many times. Now it's time for YOU to decide how you want to handle him. I would definitely wait a day or two before calling him back. Let him wonder!
Author Katherineos123 Posted October 2, 2008 Author Posted October 2, 2008 Thanks for responding guys! I dont know what to do, Im yet to call him... Crazy S: I would like nothing more than to get back together with him... but he knows that. So the reason Im confused about his motives is because if he has strong enough feelings for me to be jealous about me being interested in anyone else, and to want to keep in touch with me, and that he might still want me (or at least it might appear that way) then why wouldnt he just tell me that? He knows I still want him. Im a total safe bet! Do you think he honestly doesnt think enough time has passed, or is that just a polite cop-out way of saying "its not gonna happen"... Ugghh... Boys!..... By the way, Im a Bostonian myself! ;0) Karma: Youre exactly right. Its like they somehow know when your rounding the "Im starting to truly move on" corner, and they come running. I havent called him yet, not onyl because I want him to sweat a little, or even because Im a little panicked over the mere thought of it, but also because I dont have idea of the effect this may have on me. Im terrified that this may make me feel worse that I dont have him, and bring me back to square one. Even listening to his voicemail, in which he sounded really nervous and not himself, makes my heart skip a beat! I think I need to sleep on it again...
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