cookiecrumbles Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 so i told my ex i had feelings for her again a month ago after we had casually hooked up a few times but i didnt really get a response other than oh now you got me thinking (whatever that was supposed to mean). we still hung out and texted all the time as usual after id told her. we hung out a fair bit this weekend at some events and one minute she seems interested but then others doesnt and well it got to me heapz because well she knows i still like her and feels like she stringing me along or just likes my attention. so i send a text after saying i do still like you but i cant tell if your interested or not and flat out ask do you wanna work things out or just want to be friends? i dont get a reply til the next day and the reply mentions nothing of what i asked? it was just a hey how you doin! completely ignored my text from the night before. anyone know why she would not just answer me and let me know so i know what to do, like move on etc! ??
nopainnogain Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 The more u pursue her the more she will take you for granted. She cant miss you or realize what she has for you if your stickin around. Give her ..her space. Rather, keep your distance.
Author cookiecrumbles Posted October 1, 2008 Author Posted October 1, 2008 yeah i know your right! was thinking that all the time when writing it, ive not just got to give her space but time for myself because if the answer is not what i want to hear im already in the process of moving on and yeah if things were to work out they just will in time i guess.
riotgrrl Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 you aren't moving on if you are still always hanging around her and texting her. my boyfriend and i broke up for five months and other than the ocasional call or text about finances and our house we both left each other alone...and we were super close and had been together six years when we broke up heck i even moved to be with family in another state for 3 of the 5 months you need to give her space she needs to figure out what she wants and so do you and then only then can you try to make a 2nd go of it.
0hpenelope Posted October 1, 2008 Posted October 1, 2008 Another perspective: you just boosted her ego. She's casual about things because you're more invested in whatever's happening between you two than she is. She won't say anything because now, it's a "fun game". Take care of yourself. You've said what you wanted to say and it still got you nothing. Expectations dashed.
BCCA Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 If she told you she didn't want to work things out, and all you were ever going to be was friends, chances are you're going to tell her to get lost. She knows that. By not giving you any definite answer, she's able to keep you at arms length, hang out on her terms, and not feel like she's lying or misleading you. If she gives you a straight answer, she's stuck with it. Forget about her missing you, just stay away because it's better for you. Keep your distance, don't send her any messeges, and just try and move on. Don't worry about waiting for her to decide what she wants, that could take forever and still end up not being you. Dont feed into the games or kill yourself over analyzing the 'what ifs'.
sultry33 Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 hey op focus on you, she is not giving you the answers you need so let her do the running.. if she is texting still just say yea im good nothin more.. keep her guessing where your at what your doing.. if she dont text then hopefully you will be too busy to notice dont play the waitng game it sucks:)
Author cookiecrumbles Posted October 3, 2008 Author Posted October 3, 2008 yeah thanx for all the advice everyone, definately is what i need to do for myself. Ive been going no contact, and then today i woke up to my phone ringing and its her but i didnt pick up, I havent even returned the call or anything, have mixed emotions about doing that but its what i need to do, need some time because at the moment im not ready to talk i want to concentrate on moving on and she was probably just calling for a chat or something. We will see what happens.
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