Too Soon?

[sj9ers]

So my gf of 2 months broke up with me almost a month ago and I have been going NC ever since. I was kinda of mad during the breakup and stormed out, and right after the break up she texted me saying "DONT CALL OR TXT ME. ill call u wen IM READY." Before the break up she told one of my friends who told me that she said still likes me and thinks that I'm a "nice guy", but she was kinda of getting bored with things lately and she didn't know how or if she wanted to break up with me because she didn't know if she wanted me as a friend or boyfriend and she wanted to see if things maybe developed later if we broke up from friends to something more again and he said overall she sounded very confused and on the fence about what she wanted and that she really didn't want to lose me as a person in her life.

 

I've been missing her lately, but I don't know if it's because I miss her as a gf or is it her as a friend that I'm missing, even though we never really started out as friends. I wanna be friends again with the girl to see if their is something there and where it might lead and I also kind want to let her know that I'm not mad at her or anything because of what happened when we last spoke.During the break up she said that she would rather have me as a friend than nothing at all, but that we couldn't be friends at the time, and I took the text to mean that she just wanted time to think or maybe as just a break from me because she sent it to me right after I left that day while I was driving. Also I do have some friends that still talk to her and I could ask them to maybe see where she is when it comes to speaking to me before I send it? So I was thinking about sending her this email saying that and telling her that I know what she told my friend and that she could talk to me whenever but i don't know if I should. Thanks

 

Hey Amanda,

Listen I know that we haven’t talked in a while and you said not to contact you, but I just thought I’d let you know that I’m not mad at you and there’s no hard feelings or anything. Phill told me what you said and I understand, and you were right about the whole not being time thing and maybe we just grew apart and things didn’t work out for whatever reason. I’d rather be friends with you than to not talk to you or see you again because you’re a really great person and it would be better to be friends than nothing at all. So whenever you’re ready just give me a call or something. Hopefully I’ll talk to you sooner rather than later.

PS: Good luck with school and cheerleading, and be careful and try not to break anything =)

[Karma101]

I, personally, would not send it. She said she'd call you when she was ready. She has your number. She knows how to contact you. Besides, if you send the email/text and she doesn't respond, you're right back to square one rehashing old feelings and wondering why she didn't respond.

[cookiecrumbles]

yeah dont send it! she said wen she is ready, so dont contact her and even when she is ready make sure you are ready, dont always let it be on her terms.